My husband and I have been planning for several years to escape our expensive East Coast metro area for the Midwest so that we would be able to buy a house with some land, maybe have chickens, etc. But he got offered (tentatively; there’s some bureaucracy to deal with) a really prestigious job. I can’t go into details, but it’s an exciting enough position for us to stay here, but since it’s a government job, it still won’t pay enough for us to buy anything other than a small condo in our current county. So to afford a townhouse or SFH without a two hour transit commute, we’d have to move to the suburbs on the other side of the city, to a much less orthodox diocese, and 40+ minutes from almost everyone we know.
I knew this was a possibility and I’m aware of the good things about this area (health care, museums, parks, etc), but I find the rat race culture here so insufferable and draining and I’m tired of constantly feeling poor compared to all the people who somehow manage to afford $800k+ homes. I was really looking forward to having a big yard for my daughter and any future children, like I had growing up, and enjoying a more laid back, slower lifestyle. How can I make the best of this?