[quote="joanofarc2008, post:3, topic:244449"]
Is your friend a Christian - what are her beliefs? If she does not share her beliefs on chastity then chances are she already knows your beliefs on the subject and this would be a counterproductive discussion since you have continued your friendship despite not sharing these beliefs you may have to continue your agreeing to disagreeing policy.
She was baptized Catholic but is not practicing. I think her views on chastity are different than mine. We've talked about in the past but we've never debated, thankfully, just shared our own perspectives. She knows I'm Catholic and that I believe in waiting for marriage.
In the case where she is a Catholic or other form of Christian then you may wish to express your views nicely once. Then let it go. She will have to let her own conscience bring her back to the right actions. However, the more people make her feel like not a member of the Christian community the more likely she will be not to come back into the fold out of spite. Just some experience on this one.
thanks for the advice..
[quote="Dorothy, post:4, topic:244449"]
Since she is a close friend it may help her if you bring it up tactfully. It is not judging someone when you explain to them that they are doing the wrong thing. It is correction, and scripture advises us to correct. It says "admonish the sinner", and "instruct the ignorant." Of course, we need to do correcting in a calm and loving voice.
She may be upset at what you say, but you would be saying the truth. If she is angry at you for saying it, it is her problem not yours.
On two occasions I have had to lovingly correct my own daughters. One was upset, but she did not get angry for long. She knows that I love her.
My friend is pretty close... however we haven't talked as much this past year. I'm planning on meeting up with her to catch up. I'm not sure how I would even explain something like this, since she doesn't really believe in Christianity specifically.. so I don't know if I should talk about what the Bible says. I don't want to start an argument either. I agree that if I say anything, it needs to be kind and tactful.
The conversation might go something like...
me: "what have you been up to?"
my friend: "well - I've moved in with [boyfriend's name]!"
lol. Not even sure what to say. I can't say "oh that's cool!". But I don't want to say: "oh.. well do you know that's against the Bible right?". That might make her feel preached to and she would be further from Christianity as a result :(