Ok, hopefully this won't get to heated but here is my question as a woman. How can a women allow a man to lead when .....(how to put this delicately)......hhhhmmmm..... Ok, I will say it like it is
How can I let a man lead when I think he is less competent than me. OK I said it but before anyone shoots me please here me out.
Example 1-) I went to my parents for Christmas. I am the only on who drinks perked coffee because both my parents prefer instant. So I was using the big coffee pot when my dad (with the best of intentions) pulled out a machine that makes one cup at a time. I used it to be polite but to be honest it was a pain because I could not make 2 cups at a time (yes I drink a lot of coffee). All I could think is 'thank God this is only a couple of times a year'
Example 2-) I was on a tour in Europe and having trouble accessing my cash. The tour guide tried to help me by making phone calls and emails for me. This poor man could not understand banking instruction for the world of him and was messing things up left right and center. How do I politely tell him 'I can handle this myself'
Example 3-) I had a male friend over and I had to hand wash some sweaters. He offered to help me (which was nice). He put way too much soap in the sink and then was stuck rinsing the sweaters forever. I was concerned he would bet fed up and just leave the soap in the sweaters and hand them to dry. How do I tell a man who has just offered to do some housework 'Don't use to much soap' without sounding ungrateful?
Example 4-) Men have commented when I have lost weight. The first thing I hear is 'If you put the weight back on you are a looser' (yes I was a fat child). How do I tell a man who in his mind has just given me a compliment 'Don't talk about my weight'
So in a nutshell, how does a woman allow a man to lead with out having things messed up?