Ok… I’m Catholic, husband is not. He’s not baptised and doesn’t believe in “man made religions.” Our children are Catholic and are very openly raised as such…
I questioned him that if I was to die tomorrow, would he continue to raise the children in the Catholic faith. I know the Godparents would certianly step in (to an extent, I guess both are kind of timid in “overstepping their boundaries.”) to try to help the kids’ know the Church. His answer was he doesn’t know. He doesn’t know because he recognizes that it would be hard because he doesn’t subscribe to religion.
I don’t want to play the “what-if” game and start an argument but I was actually 1) offended, 2) threatened. I was offended because he knows how much the Church means to me and he couldn’t be definitive in his answer to carry out what is obviously something special to me (and I hope, someday, him). He’s respected me and the Church thus far while I’m alive. I felt threatened because I know his family well enough that they’d INSTANTLY start in on the kids’ to try to convert them. When my oldest was just 4, my MIL started in on her telling her it was a sin to call a priest a father and to pray to Mary. I stopped that immediately but now my SIL has made some comments here and there to my children. I openly stop them, but I’m afraid my husband would not.
I understand his fear of having to raise children in a religion he doesn’t subscribe to. I really can understand that… But how could I break open this discussion even further? I’ve thought of leaving a will of some sorts with very, very explicit instructions for the kids to be raised Catholic.
Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks in advance!