Here is the situation. My mother is a really good enablers. Since I was being tooken care of, I really never had anything to complain about. I am now 40 and I depend way too much on her for emotional support. The worse is, she is not an assertive person, so when I tell her how I plan on setting boundaries, she always talks me out of it and then I resent her for not being supportive. Then she gets mad at me for trying to manipulate her out of her opinion and the fight goes on. This happens all the time.
I am now at a point where I am realizing that for my own sake I need to make changes. I have NO idea how to go about it. Also, I have very little (or practically none) face to face places where I can go for support. Please no one suggest going to a self help or church groups. They have NEVER worked for me in the past. But appart from praying, what are some day to day things I could do to break my patterns?
PS I just want to highlight that I have talked to several priest and tried several groups, they have NEVER helped me and please be considerate of the fact that they just don’t work for me. To try and find one would just cause a lot of pain