Not sure if this is the right forum…if it isn’t I’m sure it will be moved to the proper one.
I have this dilemma. It’s been a ‘discussion’ between my mom and I who have differing opinions.
Here’s the situation…my younger sister left the church back in college. She lived with her boyfriend for 7 years and is now married to him with two little girls. He’s not Christian–not baptized even, and they have not/are not going to baptize the kids.
My mom constantly is on her case–has been since college, telling her she’s going to hell if she doesn’t change her ways, making her feel bad and so on. My mom says it’s her Catholic duty to ‘encourage’ her to come back to the church. I should add that my mom has some unresolved psychological issues that she is in a denial state about–and I’m sure this is blending in with her ‘behavior’/‘attitude’.
I do NOT view her approach as ‘encouragement’–if anything, it’s dis-encouraging her–the more my mom harps on her, the further away she goes.
My approach is this–she knows that I’m Catholic–that I go to church and pray. My sister is very aware that I’m very devout. However, I don’t ‘push’ anything on her–I don’t tell her she’s going to hell in a handbasket or anything like that. I’ve also explained that mom has psychological issues that are not representative of a true Catholic/Christian. I’m very careful not to make her feel terrible and try to remain ‘open’ without hiding my faith/belief. I pray for my sister and her immediate family, as well as my mom on a consistent basis.
Can anyone give me any other helpful advice??? Is there anything else I can do?