So, your wife is Christian, but not Catholic,and you married outside the Catholic church, is that right?
Was she very against a Catholic marriage, or you just didn’t bring it up at the time?
My husband is not Catholic, and we married outside the church. Eventually I felt led to come back. I made sure he understood that the purpose of the consolidation was NOT that our marriage was never a viable marriage. It was a civil marriage and the Catholic church acknowledges that. Our kids were not bastards or whatever. But that the Catholic church considers some marriage ceremonies to be a Sacrament, like communion. Your wife’s protestant church does not. The convalidation just adds the Sacramental nature to the marriage, that is all. Maybe she’d be more inclined if she understood that? Since she doesn’t think marriage is a Sacrament anyway, she shouldn’t care that your previous marriage wasn’t one.
Also, have you explained that the biggest issue is your disobedience to the Church, and you want to make that right? (had you both been protestant there would be no need for a consolidation…maybe explain that? That the issue isn’t that you married in a Protestant church, it is that as a Catholic you went agains Church law when doing it.)
Is she anti-Catholicism in general?
Does she have a particular reason for holding up the Convalidation? Is she unwilling to allow the children to be raised Catholic? Or is she just being obstinate?
Perhaps you don’t need a Priest, but a marriage counselor?
In the meantime, attend and don’t recieve communion. I did that for 2 years while regularizing my marriage situation. It was hard, but given the sacrifices others make for their faith, I can’t complain.