Thank you all for the replies.
[quote="rick43235, post:2, topic:238577"]
Next time she starts up, tell her that if she cannot talk about your beliefs in a respectful manner, then the subject is off limits. (Same way it would be if you couldn't discuss her lack of beliefs respectfully. THAT subject would be off limits too.)
It's not just direct discussion of religion or issues to do with religion which is the problem. It's also certain things that are said/done which also cause issues.
Prime example- my mom is fond of blaspheming God, saying Oh my G-- a LOT. I'll tell her not to say that (without even mentioning religious beliefs) and then there's an argument.
[quote="cuqui, post:5, topic:238577"]
As much as you love your mom, I don't think that you should allow her to dictate to you how you are living your spiritual life. You are in college and pretty much independent soon and will be leaving the nest in the near future. This is a spiritual calling that you must not ignore. Sure, families can be divided over religious beliefs and it is tough and even painful. Do pray for her conversion (you may want to google some novenas -- my fav is the Novena to the Miraculous Medal, but I'm not sure if you have to wear one to say it....I do wear it everyday and it is quite efficacious!). I am curious as to why you are baptized as Christian and yet she is an atheist? Did she approve then of your baptism? Be gentle and polite with her when she insists on you coming with her to shop. You may want to say something like, "Mom, I'd really love to to come with you, but this is also important to me and I also enjoy playing the piano/ bass at church."
Most importantly -- pray for her conversion and trust in God's plan for you. He may be using you to call your mom home too.
As for me, I am an EM at our church (give out communion) yet my very own mother (whose legacy to me was the teaching of the faith!!!!) has left the CC.:shrug:
I should possibly point I've graduated and gone back home.
I was actually partially raised by my Methodist/Anglican grandparents, whom I thank for my religious education and introduction to Christianity. It was for this reason I'm a Christian of any sort.I made the decision in university to begin attending church myself, with no-one telling me I had to go. Now my church is Baptist and so it was offered that I go through adult immersion baptism (my church has no infant baptisms). She didn't actually actively disapprove of it but I knew she didn't like it, although my grandparents DID attend my ceremony.
And yes, prayer is always a good thing and this whole thing is on my mind during each and every prayer.
[quote="Ursus_luteolus, post:6, topic:238577"]
As one who is mostly atheist I can tell you i
t is hard to respect a person with a religious belief. To you its probably like respecting an adult who believes in little people,. Now a days the thought is rightfully laughed at, but a woman I respect, my great grand mother, believed in them as much as you believe in Jesus. However the respect I have for her came with age and as I slowly came to comprehend the magnitude of her actions during her life. So to be respected by us you have to work harder, you are not a good person because of your religion, you must be a good person despite your religion. Also your mom is probably trying to be patient with you and your new fad, so be kind and return those patients to her. Its not easy for both parties.
I could bear it IF she was actually able to tell me why she rejects God, and didn't show such hypocrisy as ridiculing my beliefs whilst herself believing in stuff like horoscopes and the paranormal. I find the whole attitude two-faced and hypocritical to put it mildly.
I'm not asking for a thesis on the lines of Richard Dawkins' God Delusion, I'm asking for some basic reasoning as to why she thinks what she does and then maybe I could actualy address some of those issues properly and correct some misconceptions. Indeed, she thought I'd joined some weird cult when I joined the Christian Union, rather than understanding that it was something I truly wanted to do.
In the 4 years I've been a Christian, she has not ONCE even tried to remotely understand my beliefs. She doesnt' have to agree with them, as she doesn't agree with many of my opinions, I just want her to understand what I believe and why I think it to be so.