I tried to pick a good title hoping it will draw people into this discussion as I'm sure all if not most have this going on in their families. I have some questions concerning some of the things I have heard from close relatives on this and have kinda come to the conclusion that it all goes back leads back to scandal and hypocrisy to why many have walked away from the faith.
I have several aunts, and uncles etc. that either got remarried outside the Catholic Church or just plain out decided they were going to live with their significant other regardless what is said by anyone, even the Church. I know it's hard not to judge what to conclude from this but I find it amazing that less and less care the longer it goes on. When they send their kids to Mass to learn the faith, I'm sure they might look back one day and say Daddy isn't doing what they are teaching me here. Evidently, I'm sure Daddy will think of a pretty good excuse for his daughter when she wonders if the Church is lying or is Daddy being a hypocrite. It's a sad situation. I think kids and even adults young and old will take the side of example set by the parents most of the times. Even over Church teachings unless God changes it. Most within my family have flat out given up. My one uncle said it's okay to sin because God understands our actions and there is plenty of room in purgatory. That may be true about purgatory, but why would you just give up on your faith and settle for this? It's seems as if he already "knows" somehow that either he is going to purgatory himself and others who are bad situations are as good as in. Is this wrong to think this way? Wouldn't you be abusing God's mercy by assuming this? Are we not supposed to grow in faith daily?
My other question I have is a discussion I had with my mother that questioned me on if some of my aunts and uncles who are committing adultery can be saved. She said, they are already remarried and walked away from the Church and the family has no choice but to accept them. But what would they need to do now if they wanted to reconcile with God, she asks? They are in a stuck in a position of public scandal by what they accepted, so it's too late she says. Just accept it because even if they went to confession what does that mean now that they must split up? Who's going to do that? I said someone that loves God would want to get right and have the Church investigate if the first marriage was valid in the first place etc. Unfortunately, who's going to go through all of that. It's easier to do what you want to do and after all, everyone else is doing it.
It's a wonder why the family is broken apart. Can anyone offer up any insight on this discouragement I tend to find myself in when I think of this. Again, I think this all leads back to the parents and the scandal they give on their kids to why they walked away from the faith. Their own parents have let them down, so therefore they accept sin going off the deep end.