This topic may be contraversial and I am only looking for advice as to what to do with my dh’s dad and brother’s attitude on hispanics. I am a hispanic and my dh is not. That being said, my FIL keeps sending emails about illegal immigrants, mostly Mexicans, and I am not a Mexican. My dh and I have different views on this situation and some the same. Well, one time his dad sent an email that was a sore subject for me and he doesn’t talk to me much anymore when he calls. He says he is not prejudice, but at one of my visits to his house when I was first married, they referred to blacks as “monkeys.” I don’t know what they call hispanic. My dad made it clear to his family that if they didn’t agree with the marriage because I was hispanic to keep that from him.
Today my FIL sent another email and basically in it it states that if you are in America, welcome, but if you don’t know English get out. I just delete his emails, but it bothers me. I speak both English and Spanish and agree that if you live here that you need to learn to speak English, but that may take time for some people and they have to be able to communicate to someone and they do so in their native language. Some are very old people, who will not learn another language at their age. I know of a situation where my MIL, who is a paramedic, had a elderly woman about 89 yr. old and had some kind of pain, but didn’t speak English to tell her about it. My MIL called me and I had to speak to this woman and than I told my MIL the problem. This elderly woman told me she just moved in from Equador for she had to move in with her dd, but that she didn’t speak English. I understand her situation. According to my FIL and my BIL’s, that is no excuse and she needs to leave if she can’t speak English.
How do you deal with people like that? My dh doesn’t like to get involved anymore with it for the last time it was a mess. Should I address this with my FIL and tell him how his emails offend me as a hispanic and a Catholic, or just keep deleting his email and chuck it up to ignorance and prejudice. My FIL doesn’t agree with anything that separates people, like he told me that the TV network, BET for blacks, is not needed. I don’t see anything wrong with it, but he just told me that. He disagrees with any Spanish or other language programming on TV or radio while here in America.
How do I deal with him? I realize some may agree with him, but please be charitable.