I was court ordered in a rehab almost 4 years ago. It was hardcore 12 step philosophy and approach to everything. I had to get a sponsor and work some steps although I did not make it through all the steps. I am not a 12 stepper, in fact, I never really was. I did not like the program for several reasons. Actually I was hostile towards AA and the 12 Steps (and by extension, NA) for quite some time. I am still not really a fan, but I am no longer outright hostile to twelve steppers.
The thing about the 5th step is every sponsor is different. Some don’t want to hear every little detail of everything wrong you did in the past. My first sponsor was like that. He just gave me a packet to go over with some questions I had to answer. I did not really tell him anything I did not mind telling.
My second sponsor (while still in the rehab) Wanted a actual list of all my resentments and I think pretty much everything I could remember when I did something wrong to someone else. He even admitted some whoppers of his own to me. It was more info than I really wanted to know, honestly :shrug:
Keep this in mind. Don’t listen to anyone who tells you that If you don’t confess every little detail, you are more likely to go back to using drugs. Go ahead and confess your wrongs to your sponsor if you think it will make you feel better. Keep in mind though… a “sponsor” has not sworn to keep your confessions a secret on the same level that a Priest has. I would rather confess to a priest.