I’ve posted about my brother before but I really need to vent.
Years ago when my brother met his now wife, they both cheated on other people to be with one another. MY brother with his girlfriend, my SIL on her then husband.
When their relationship has been stable my brother has called me and told me that he didn’t know if he loved his wife and wanted a divorce. I urged him into counseling. He said no, he didn’t have time.
He and his wife cheated on one another numerous time. Once the cheating began, my brother suddenly was in love with his wife again.
There has been physical violence against him by his wife but thankfully he hasn’t reciprocated.
They are now separated and I have begged him to stay away from her. Their relationship sounds potentially dangerous.
My brother says that he can’t help who he loves and gets mad at me for suggesting that he could eventually fall out of love with her.
Both my brother and SIL are seeing each other, making one another miserable and having relationships with other people.
Recently, my brother called me. He had talked to my husband first and said that he had the flu. WHen I asked though what was wrong with my brother he got petulant and said in a very whiny, angry voice, “I MISS MY WIFE.”
He then proceeded to tell me how his wife had come to his home and ruined his date with his new girlfriend.:shrug:
I don’t talk to my brother often, but when I do, I get sick to my stomach with worry.
My younger son asked me if his uncle was a socipath. I told him no because my brother can be a generous, kind person. It is just that my brother’s needs come first in any relationship.
This is just a vent, but if you all can give me advice on how not to worry about my brother’s melodramatic life, I would love to know.
My life is so stable and I hate this sort of self made drama that follows my brother around.