My husband’s parents were in the process of getting a divorce before we met, almost 20 years ago. 6 years ago DH’s father remarried. Before this past Thanksgiving they separated. This has been coming, she has thought about it for at least a couple years, she finally moved out. We don’t blame her, he is a very self-centered person, really shouldn’t be married. They are not divorced, but he has already seen aother person.
My husband and I cannot think of a way to explain the situation to our children, ages 3 and 6. They love Grandpa, and they love the person he married a few years ago, and she adores them and loves them too. We will continue a relationship with her, but now will only see her perhaps once or twice a year due to distance.
He has come a few times recently for a quick visit, and our children ask if she is coming.
We have skirted around it, but we will see him again this week, and I feel it is time to tell our chidlren something so they don’t keep wondering if they will see her.
My husband asked his dad last night what we should tell our girls. Because, it is his behavior and lack of respect that has caused the separation. He just says tell them it didn’t work out.
NO. I do not want our children with an idea that if a marriage doesn’t “work out” oh well. I also don’t want them to always worry what if their spouse doesn’t think it is working, they will just divorce.
The real reason is because of DH’s dad, so how to be honest without damaging their relationship with him?
Thanks for any advice.