Here is a biblical way of relating to this situation.
You cannot be forgiven if you donot forgive. Forgiving means letting go, leaving it at the foot of Jesus on the cross and nailing that part of your life to the cross, it will then be taken as fare as the east is from the west.
QUOTE=rn8;2079360]my husband had a brief affair 1yr ago.our marriage is great now(after a lot of hard work)but…she recently moved only 6 miles away from us.he does not know this and has been very hard on himself and is still trying to forfive himself. i want to run into her so badly to just let some steam off,to tell her how much she hurt me and my boys.i want her to know the seriousness of this act.this was 3rd guy she had been with,then after my husband’s,her husband found out.will it help me to let off steam then ove on to forgive her??? I think i have forgiven him.thanks
Jesus tells us that this should be done before we go to bed.
My wife did this to me and I knew I had to forgive her. I know that 15 years latter she holds onto the past but Ihaven’t. I let go by telling Jesus that had I not been there I would not have been hurt but truth is I was there so I forgave myself. That disempowered the hurt attachment she had on me. It then gave me the power back to be able to forgive her for all the situations she did back then. I am a free man and no matter what happens now I am able to love because I forgave and ***lay the actions ***down at the foot of Jesus on the cross and **nailed the part of my life **to the cross.
It is so good to be free, through Jesus Christ His freedome lasts for ever. Amen. I know it happened but there is no more pain, Jesus has the pain nailed to the cross where He wishes it to be.