A friend of mine- I actually pay rent to him- is a bit of a lapsed Catholic who’s slowly coming back around to being more fully involved. He has 16 years of Catholic education under his belt, but after he graduated from a Catholic college he spent a long time away from anything church-related. In the past few months, however, he’s started going to Mass again pretty consistently with his family. So he’s partaking of the Eucharist- but it’s still been a little over 30 years since his last confession.
Lucky for him, I’m the type of Evangelical friend who wants to help him be a better Catholic rather than convert him. We’ve had some entertaining conversations on the matter- friend, did you know you’re supposed to receive the sacrament of reconciliation and be a full participant in the sacramental life of the church, and it’s something of an issue if you knowingly stay away from the one thing while still partaking of the other? Then he reminds me that I’m a Protestant, and when’s the last time I went to Mass? He’s also quite well informed by his family and by his education (he says he’s the black sheep of the family, comparatively speaking)- he just ignores certain parts of what they’ve told him.
Fortunately, we have a new roommate, and he’s a devout Catholic who attended the Catholic University of America way back in the day. My somewhat lapsed roommate refers to him as the Catholic expert, and it’s a good thing he’s here because he can convert me, I should listen to his expertise. I suggested that if he expects the Evangelical to listen to everything a Catholic expert has to say, maybe he, the Catholic, had better listen to him about just one thing- going to Confession. He was amused by that point, but he still hasn’t gone and done it.
So this is my question. What are the main points of emphasis that can help my landlord get back to confession? I assume the first one is the hardest, but what are the things that tend to be the main roadblocks, and how are they overcome? Keep in mind that I won’t be doing this all on my own, instead I will attempt to pass some helpful pointers on to the elder statesman with the expertise so he can do a slightly better job of convincing him. Granted, he has plenty of expertise of his own, but as far as I know he hasn’t been away from confession for a really long period of time and maybe there’s some people on here who can give some insight from a bit closer up.