Sure hope you folks can give me some guidance. My wife’s cousin from Boston is coming into town for a family party at his parents’ house. He’ll be accompanied by his partner and their infant son. The cousin decided he wanted a family soon after he met his current partner and they paid a woman to be a surrogate mother.
Most of the in-laws are not supportive of the partnership or the fact they are now raising a son but are afraid to speak up for fear of hurting the parents of the cousin. Most everyone has decided to look the other way and treat them as if everything is normal.
My wife and I are sickened by the whole turn of events. We have not acknowledged his new partner or the son and did not attend the baby shower. We have discussed our feelings with other family members but we’ve been told to bury the feelings for the sake ot the cousins parents.
Now the party is coming and my mother-in-law is putting a tremendous amount of pressure on us to attend with our three teenagers.
How should I handle this? I don’t wan’t to validate the gay partnership by treating them as any other couple and the thought of even being in the same room with them makes me ill. And I also am very concerned about setting the right example for my children. But what IS the right example?
I’m sure at a loss here. Any advice is greatly appreciated.