How would you suggest I handle coworkers and some family members that don’t really ‘support’ my decision to come back to the church???
I work in a fairly close ‘family’ of coworkers who like to joke around during work. One such coworker is a gay man who has been, in a way, like a father to me. I really get along with his ‘significant other’ and really have no big ‘issue’ with him being gay. He is a close friend. However, he like to tell very inappropriate jokes. I really don’t know how to respond, because they aren’t directed to me. Rather I am in the wrong place at the wrong time and overhear these jokes. He really is not into religion so I don’t discuss my beliefs with him, so he doesn’t technically know how I feel about these jokes but he does know that I am uncomfortable. Before my ‘coming back home’ 2 1/2 months ago, he would tell the jokes and I would smile at them. Only to not seem rude. I have always truthfully been very uncomfortable with these jokes. I just wanted to be part of the group. To go with the flow. I made a lot of mistakes doing that.
Also, my mom and I have always been very close. She is even living with me. She is Catholic, but won’t come to church with me. She even went so far as to say that she doesn’t want me to become ‘weird’ or a ‘fanatic’. She also made a comment that now that I have become so involved with the Church that I had better stick with, like it is a faze I am going though, like some new ‘hobby’. This is my passion, my life now. I feel that this has always been my calling, God just didn’t want me to start it until I was 23. I think that she may see it as she is losing her daughter. I don’t see it that way. I see it as me finding out who I am. And I love and thank God for it everyday.
I am going to be Confirmed at this Easter Vigil. I want her to be there and I don’t want her to be there. Does that make sense??? I know that she will take communion, and I now know that is wrong. She hasn’t been to confession in well over 10 years. I am just torn on how to approach situations.
Does anybody have any feedback as to handle these situations??? Please help. Thanks and God Bless.