[quote="steph410, post:1, topic:241604"]
i am catholic and my husband is non-denominational Christian. we just had our fourth child and he is only 5 months old. but in a few years i would love to try for another child. my husband is very skeptical about this- all of ours are very young and close in age. he comes from a family with 3 kids and thinks "isn't 4 enough?". he thinks i'm crazy for wanting more.
i just see things differently. i know 5 would be a lot, but i feel it's my calling to be a mom and would not mind another if that's what God blesses us with. anyways, my husband seems very influenced by society and in protestant denominations it's completely commonplace to get a vasectomy or use birth control. i feel those are a sin, but it's hard to have this discussion with him because he just doesn't agree. is there any way to perhaps help him see my perspective or should i just drop it for a while and pray?
Explain to him that we really don't live that long. Even a 100 year life is only a split second in the context of eternity. Yet, when you cooperate with God in the creation of a person who will live forever, that's so much more than anything else one could do in this life.
Contraception is certainly a sin. The Church teaches infallibly on this. (See Humanae Vitae, for details). What a contracepting couple are telling God is this: "We know, that by this marital act, it may be Your will that we create a person who will live forever. We know that this may be Your will. But WE won't let YOU do it!" Wow. What an "in your face" kind of "I'm going to do things MY way" rebellion against Almighty God, Who has commanded us to go forth and multiply! But, this is nothing new. That was the original sin. When the serpent tempted Eve in the garden, he told her that she would not die as God promised, should she eat the forbidden fruit. No. In fact, not only would she not die, but she would be "like God" in that she could choose for herself what was right and wrong, truth and lie, etc. And this is the same mentality behind contraception. Be your own god. Be the arbiter of when life begins, rather than allow God to do so.
I would shudder to think of living that way and having to face God when I die and explain myself. Yikes!