I know I have written many thread already on my niece and nephew and how they were abused of physically and verbally by their father and step-mom while on visitation two years ago. Well the dad left them alone for two years and as of tomorrow is starting the every other weekend overnight visits. The kids are not doing well. They are now 12 1/2 years old, the girl, and my nephew is 9 1/2 years old. My nephew is is suffering from post traumatic stress disorder as a result of the child abuse from two year ago still for he sees it as if it happened yesterday. He has been for two weeks now scared to death about going to his dad. My niece was getting sick to her stomach until tonight and got into an anxiety attach and kept repeating to herself and her mother, “I can’t do this! I can’t do this! I can’t do this!” My nephew was talking to his neighbor yesterday about his beating and how his stepmom, a cop, did it. My sister asked my niece her daughter, if it was true, and my niece could not talk about it and said she can still hear the streams and at night when she closes her eyes she sees and hears what that woman did to her brother and her father allowed it. This might explain why she is afraid to sleep by herself. Now at her father, she will be forced to sleep by herself and this is creating anxiety in her.
My questions is how can we get these kids to be healed from the past child abuse they had seen and received? They are seeing counselors and have been for two years now. They are not helping. My nephew has to go to a behavioral school for he was asked to leave two Catholic schools and one public school due to his anger and behavior problems which were from the abuse and anger that came from it. My sister has been told she can not get sole custody of her kids in the state of Florida for it is impossible. WE have gone through the courts and asked for guardian ad liten for the kids and the judge refused and parenting coordinator, the judge refused. The judge was on the dad’s side and we later come to know he is usually on the dad’s side. WE won’t win with this judge and he is still there. He use to be a cop too so he likes cops and both the dad and step mom are cops. The step mom just got a job working for child protective services, so going to court she would be an expert witness. They would believe her over my sister. So our only option is to hope and pray the kids don’t get beaten again at their dad’s and if they do that they would call 911 and not be too afraid to do so, for they said they would be too afraid to do so for what their dad would do to them afterwards, or to help them heal from the past and move on. The problem is that their dad hasn’t changed. How can you help the kids move on when their dad is still very strict and violent?
WE pray and pray. My poor nephew is scared the most for when my niece turns 13 in December, she doens’t have to go anymore to her dad’s and he fears going alone and unprotected. I am so sad over all this. Please pray for their safety this weekend for the dad picks them up tomorrow the 25th after school and brings them home Sunday night at 8 p.m. Today is ST. Padre Pios’ DAy and I ask for his intercession.
If anyone has had experience with kids who have been abused and have helped them in the healing progress, please let me know. I do homeschool my niece. I can help her. I am prove that tonight she told her mom that she was going to need to pray a lot for strength for she is so so very scared. I taught her to trust in Jesus and Mary when she is scared.