I am a thirty year old wife, relatively new Catholic and hopefully soon to be mother. Over the past couple of months my mom has become very mean to me. At first I just wrote of the mean comments, but now it seems to be a pattern and it is making me not want to pick up the telephone when she calls. She will make mean comments about how fat I have become (I have gained some weight but certainly not enough to be dangerous to my health), how it is terrible to have a daughter fatter than her mother (even though that is not true) and that is as bad as having a daughter die before her mother, etc.
When I was in high school and as a young adult I struggled with bulimia nervosa, so I am shocked as these comments. They are also completely out of character. They are really hurting my feelings and it is becoming really hard for me not to feel bitter. How can I continue to honor my mother even though she is hurting me? Any suggestions on how to handle this would be much appreciated.
Another layer is that my husband and I converted to Roman Catholicism two years ago from Evangelical/Baptist background (on my end, my husband was an former Episcopalian/Evangelical), and my family is still Protestant.