I need your advice yet again. I am discerning some family issues and for the most part I pretty much know what to do,however I am having some difficulty with knowing what all to offer up and when I should say something. I have family members who have left the faith, just because someone convinced them that we are the whore of babylon I have been trying in a suttle way to say it isn’t so. I decided that the best thing for me to do is detach from them all of them not just the bible christians, but the whole bunch of them. Here is my problem I have been fighting the demon of envy for most of my life I grew up in between two very obvious favorites and a cousin who my mother adored so I made a consience decision that rather than being jealous I would befriend them and do what I have to to get the attention I needed and it worked, but I am still fighting and it is getting the best of me. My little brother was having problems with his addiction and I helped my SIL by calling her and I also stayed at the hospital with her for about 4 hours no other member of the family came.I ask where my sister was she is responsible for him leaving the faith and she was nowhere to be found. Well we all got over this and life went on In December the same brother had a daughter who was getting married and I offered my house for the shower mostly to get the company and help out you see I lover entertaining my family so that was no problem. After that I was having a little gathering of some family members to do a show and invited my SIL’s and my sister no of which showed up didn’t call me or email for a week than did and expressed sorrow by that time my little girl who has Down Syndrome was going into the hospital for surgery and we had been through alot with her and my family knew it well guess what no a brother or sister called to see how she made out, nothing so when I said something I was told they didn’t know about it and that is simply not true I have been talking about it since they sent us home from a previous scheduled surgery to do more testing. I got passed that also now here comes the wedding and lo and behold I have yet another problem her is my sister and my neice who by the way is my baby’s godmother only she is not because she now doesn’t believe in it so he gets no acknowledgment are sitting at the head table and I am sitting with my two brother their wives and children and my son was sitting with people he didn’t know. Needless to say I had a good time, but vowed to detach myself from further slaps in the face. Anyhow my son informed my that everyone thinks I am mad because I was sitting at the head table and that is not true I was upset that I was seated with my sister her daughter and my son since we all are around the same age. I was angry, but now I am just trying to detache. I really don’t fit in never did and most likely won’t and so I just want to keep my emotions intack and keep the envy demon from me. I feel I will lose the battle. Here it is "SHOULD I CALL MY SIL AND TELL HER THAT I AM NOT MAD AND EXPLAIN TO HERE THAT I NEED TIME AWAY OR SHOULD I JUST GO TO HERE SHOWER AND IGNORE WHAT THEY ARE THINKING. I HAVE OFFERED SO MUCH ALREADY AND GOD KNOWS HE DESERVES MUCH MORE OFFERING, SOMEHOW I FEEL THAT THIS NEEDS TO BE SAID. I DO HAVE THE ABILITY TO SAY THINGS WITH GRACE AND SENSITIVITY SO THAT IS NOT THE PROBLEM. PLEASE ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREATLY APPRICEATED. Sorry this is so long and trust me you don’t have the half of it.