I need some help on how to speak to a gay male friend. He has been struggling with depression and is just starting to accept being gay and trying to figure out what that means for him. I’m looking for honest, candid, and practical feedback here. I’m struggling on a couple fronts. First, my friend is Christian and is well aware that I am a practicing Catholic. So, I’ve made it clear that I don’t quite feel comfortable talking about certain things (i.e. dating and physical intimacy). He took strong offense to that, so I really just don’t know where to go from here. I want to be a supportive and caring friend, especially given that very few people are aware of this, but I don’t want to express support for acting on the attraction. What specifically is okay to discuss? Is it okay to “date” as a gay man or should I not support that either? To make things harder, I am married so my wife feels it is sort of an “emotional adultery” if that makes sense. She feels truly hurt when he and I discuss his depression and being gay.
Any advice would be appreciated!