My boyfriend and I met in the Catholic campus ministry at our university last year, when he was a senior and I a freshman, and six months ago (a year since we’d met) we began dating.
After our first date, a married friend from campus ministry, among a few other people!, has taken it upon himself to criticize our relationship. He accused my boyfriend of moving too fast by having such a nice date, and of not guarding my heart, by being a young professional throwing money at some innocent college girl. Needless to say, that is completely inappropriate, and upon learning that I will complete my degree in three years, he has approached my boyfriend to schedule another talk.
This upsets me that he cannot be happy for us - we have talked about marriage, but we also pride ourselves on keeping our relationship private, as we have seen what letting everybody in has done to the relationships of our friends. The people who matter, our parents and close friends, are very happy for us, and although we are by no means perfect, we are really striving to do this right and to stay close to God (going to confession together, praying every day, going to Mass together, etc)
Anyway, how do you respond to unwarranted, unsolicited advice? This man thinks he’s giving fraternal correction, he thinks he’s in the right to say such things.