[quote="notredame_999, post:7, topic:229957"]
I dont know what is worse; them not going to mass, or them going to mass and unworthily receiving. I feel uncomftorable by inviting them to mass, and then saying by the way you are not in a position to receive since you don't go to confession and you think birth control is ok.
This is just very depressing stuff, especially talking to them about birth control. Even I have some doubts sometimes about the church's teachings reading some of these forums from mothers who either have health problems or have 4 young children in 6 years.
On one hand I want to trust the church, but its really hard considering all the sin, abuse, scandal, and new mass that was created at Vatican II which I believe is part of the problem.
How come I, their son, have to bring this up? Shouldn't they have heard it from the priests in their sermons over the years? Why are 80-90% of catholic marriages in America being stained with mortal sin and contraception right now? Its just really terrible.
I do not want to discourage you from talking to your parents, but try not to force the issues too much. Sometimes, all you can do is let go and let God....My husband's parents are divorced, both have been remarried civilly, his dad shacked up with a woman for a while and then left her, and married and divorced again. No annulment, at least I'm pretty sure they never bothered to apply. They are Catholics by form only, but when they visit us, they both go to church with us and they both receive the Eucharist. It is pretty horrifying to me but I can't really say anything to them. I pray for them. I wish they had done things differently. It still bothers my husband a lot, and actually their relationship and divorce is what turned him against the Church in the first place. He's still angry at God for not answering his prayers to keep his parents from divorcing. But there's no fixing what's been broken for so long...and truthfully, they might even say that there is nothing wrong with how they've lived over the last 35 years or so.
It is not the Church that is wrong on these matters, though. It's us, the sinners. You already know that contraception is not what God intends for us, but society has gotten so selfish that we can hardly think in the way God intended.
Pray, and talk to your priest. He may have some ideas about how to bring this up with your parents, or how you can have some peace of mind even if you don't talk to them right now. Ultimately you cannot make any choices for anyone else, only yourself.
God bless you. It's hard.