My Dh and I got married outside the church 6 yrs ago. I returned to the Church last year and we had our marriage convalidated last August. I told him around that time that I felt we shouldn’t be having oral sex, he was very upset with me. After a few months of being strong, I started to qualify certain times of the month as okay, such as when I was on my period. (this is strictly me pleasing him during that time) I tried to convince myself that since I was doing it to please my Dh and it wasn’t a fertile time of the month, then it was okay.
Needless to say, I continued to have feelings of guilt, shame and the sense that God was very displeased with me. I became pregnant in March of this year and the nausea kicked in severely, leaving the thought of any oral pleasure just disgusting to me. My Dh understood this, and has hoped that as soon as I feel better, that our oral stuff could continue. Well, I have since been praying and I just cannot continue to disobey any longer. My nausea has recently subsided and my Dh has continued to hint at the subject. I don’t know how to tell him this time that those actions can no longer be apart of our marriage. — I didn’t mention earlier but my Dh is NOT catholic and doesn’t really believe in conformed religion so therefore disregards anything put in the context of “well the ccc says…”
I need suggestions and prayers.