I’ve worked in a few parishes as both CCD teacher and College Missionary. I love the Catholic Liturgy and respect both those who want Latin songs and older traditions or people desiring guitars and what not.
My question is what do people see as the best way to approach others and help illuminate their failures to offer their concerns with love when they struggle with our parish’s offering of the liturgy?
Often I head 'Traditional Catholics" upset that there aren’t more latin songs, that there are extraordinary ministers, or other concerns in ugly and dispariging ways. Then 10 minutes later, I have another person approach complaining that the celebration of the mass isn’t slanted more in the opposite direction.
I think at most the services I've attended the priest and liturgical committes try very hard. Of course they don't get suggestions at their meetings or in writing...they get complaints and griping.
What’s a friendly way to get people to change their approach? (especially with people who like to agree, "you’re right *other people *do get very ugly with their comments - missing that they keep doing it)