Well, I have been here a week, and am going home tomorrow.
Actually, the possible breast cancer may be the least of her problems. She is very forgetful now, will ask the same question over and over within a short period of time, and not remember that she has just asked it. She is somewhat delusional - she sees things that aren’t there and hears things that she interprets wrongly. She’s not paranoid or agitated, just adamant that she sees what she sees. She doesn’t see very well either so that doesn’t help.
She can still care for herself, barely, but there will come a time very soon when she will not be able to.
I am very depressed about this. She is very fortunate to have a close friend, who may as well be her daughter (I am the age of a granddaughter), who is here helping her and may be able to take her in when she can no longer care for herself. Mom has an elderly dog and a cat, so going into the nursing home would mean giving them up which would break her heart and I think she wouldn’t live long. Plus, she has no money so would have to go where Medicare would pay. (She never had children of her own - I am the closest thing to a daughter or granddaughter that she has. Her friend is really like a daughter but they are long-time friends.)
I am sad for her. I almost wish that she wouldn’t last much longer, and I think when I get that old, maybe I will just ask my family to take me somewhere and let me go out in the woods and die. I know that is a sin but it is awful to see someone lose their mind like this.
God bless those of your who have gone through this with a loved one. It’s not Alzheimer’s yet, but I would say she has dementia. Hearing her talk about seeing little balls of light in the sky every night and that the man up the street is doing logging in the woods at night is just so sad.