First of all, I’m glad to see you considering a courtship, I know you have been through some difficult times lately.
I think that it is more of a mindset than anything really, and it is conveyed in how you approach the relationship with a woman from the onset. When you talk about things that interest you, and what is important to you, you are honest and don’t only talk about movies, current events, and favorite foods.
The difference between dating and courting is the end goal. If you are only interested in going out with someone to have a nice time and have no interest in every considering them for marriage, then you are dating. If you go into a date with the thought at the back of your mind that you are considering this person for marriage, then your entire focus of where the date could possibly lead is totally different.
How do you convey this to someone on a first date? Gosh - I am not really sure. My husband and I were long distance, as you know, so all these types of questions were out in the air before we ever considered meeting for the first time. Our end goal, for both of us, was made perfectly clear. This was not dating - this was clearly courting.
In your situation, perhaps asking mutual friends to introduce you to the woman instead of approaching her yourself might be a way to start the introductions.
Hopefully someone else will have some more practical advice for you, I’m sorry this is probably less than helpful.
I guess that if I met someone and went out with him for the first time, and he told me straight out the gate that he really wanted to be married and was looking for the right girl, how I would react would depend on the guy I suppose. Some guys would be a total turn off with that approach, and some I might be interested in because of that - it would depend on so many factors, I don’t think you can plan for everything.
Good luck though!