Hi. I always learn so much here and respect all of your opinions so I thought I’d throw this out to everyone…
My husband is going through the RCIA program at our parish and I was completely appauled at the last meeting. I am his sponsor and attend all the meetings with him. At the last meeting, a team member was assigned to teach the topic of sex and marriage and the Church. He started out ok…but then he started talking about his own personal life (he is not married, but has a girlfriend.) He admitted that he engages in pre-martial sex and depending on what priest you talk too…some say it’s ok as long as you love the person and intend to marry them.:eek: Then he went on to say he feels that a woman should be able to get an abortion if she knew the baby would be “retarded” or “missing an arm”:eek: :eek: If that wasn’t bad enough the moderator of the RCIA basically was agreeing with him saying she is liberal and feels conservative priests cause complete emotion demise of people having issues with artificial birth control!!! I confronted her right away (trying to be charitable…but speaking the truth of the Church law) I said the Church allows you to post pone a pregnancy for a legitmate reason by using natural family planning. I told her my husband and I have taken the course given by our diocese and it works when used properly. I happen to be 8 months pregnant right now…so she points at me in front of everyone and laughs and says…“yeah, NFP works so great!”…basically mocking me because I’m pregnant with my 4th child. I shot back and said that I am pregnant because I WASN’T using NFP because we ACTUALLY WANT a big family! I explained that when I was recovering from surgery a few years back…we used NFP and it does work. I wish this was all…but then the Catechumens get hit with this one…"My God is a merciful God and would never send anyone to hell with mortal sin because they didn’t get to confession! A team member made the comment and the moderator basically agreed and said went along with the comment.
My whole night was ruined because I feel that these people coming into the Catholic faith were advised by team members and the leader of RCIA that birth control is a rule of Church that you can use your own discretion on…that pre-martial sex is fine…that abortion should be fine in certain situations and mortal sin is “no big deal”
My husband was annoyed at the whole thing and knew they were wrong in what they were saying…but what about the other canindates?? What should I do? I know I am not an expert, but I know this is NOT the teaching of the Chruch and my conscience is killing me. Do I tell our parish priest?..or will that look like I’m judging other people or coming across that I’m sinless? I just feel sick over this.
There was another time when they were discussing that Mary could have had other children!?! Not the candidates…the RCIA moderator!!
I feel like the Chruch is being attacked from the inside and when we start picking and choosing which rules we want to follow…we are surely leading ourselves to spiritual ruin.
The moderator is extremely WELL versed in scripture and the Cathechism…she just feels it is ok to have your own view and it seems like a cafeteria Catholicism class.
Sorry so long!! Any suggestions would help me in what I should do. Thanks and God Bless you all!
Blessed Virgin Mary…pray for us!