I am one of those “list” people who was just really, really, lucky!
Seriously, I made a list when I was around 12-13, and found my future husband at 15 (we didn’t start dating until we were 17, though). I also prayed constantly that I wouldn’t have to date in college, because I was so scared of what I thought the “dating scene” was, so I asked to meet my husband in high school. My must-haves included:
*]Believed in God (I was not baptized yet, so denomination was unimportant to me)
*]Was a virgin
*]Liked and wanted children
*]Wanted me to be a stay-at-home Mom
*]Was really tall
*]Was smarter than me
*]Had a college degree
*]Was responsible with money
I know some of those are kinda silly, but I was only 13. :o I even showed the list to my dad, and he added “rich” and “Roman Catholic” to it (the former to be funny, the latter to be serious).
God definitely delivered for me, and in a very timely manner (even on the silly things). I have no idea why He blessed me so quickly, or so early for that matter, but He did.
I never had “fireworks” with anyone, but I did experience a “new relationship euphoria,” very early on in our courtship. I also don’t believe in soul mates or that any guy is The One for me. The feeling that I had found my future husband only came after I really got to know him as a person, which took about 3 years.
My husband had a much simpler experience. He tells me that he knew he wanted to marry me the minute he met me. How’s that for confusion, for all of you looking for the “right” answer?