HuffPost Interview with a Young Woman Who Is Becoming a Discalced Carmelite Nun


A good HuffPost interview with a young woman named Jade Banks on why she’s becoming a nun.


I wish her the best and hope she maintains her happiness and enthusiasm when she enters Carmel.


Huff Po and actual reporting? whats next- the Cleveland Browns winning the Super Bowl?


Thank you for sharing this article, Tiger_lily.:slight_smile:


This is an excellent read! Prayers for her and for all those who are discerning their vocation. :slight_smile:


Why do you think it’s a sad story?


An interesting story. This young woman is called to the cloistered life and to prayer. It is not something most on the outside could appreciate. Not all nuns are cloistered. I have known sisters from a variety of orders and they are a joy to be around. I once had a beer with a nun when we were working a yard sale together on a hot day.


Most sisters I’ve been around (other than my teachers at school!) are lots of fun!

As for the cloistered life, it’s a very special call and for some of us, hard to understand. I’ve always been attracted to the cloistered life, esp. the Carmelites, but in reality, if I ever did have a vocation it would have been hard to discern back in the late '60s and early '70s. Back then, everyone was leaving the religious life!

Everything I’ve read or heard about cloistered nuns leads me to believe they’re very happy. In the photos in the article, this young woman’s face is beaming with joy and happiness!


What’s sad about it? She’s made a choice to do this and she seems happy about it.


Read the life of St. Gemma, or St. Faustina, or St. Teresa, or St. Therese the Little Flower. Were they bitter and unhappy? Were they misguided souls?

“When I shrink from suffering, Jesus reproves me and tells me that He did not refuse to suffer. Then I say ‘Jesus, Your will and not mine’. At last I am convinced that only God can make me happy, and in Him I have placed all my hope…"

Does this sound unhappy?

How could one be unhappy when they have the Perfect Spouse?


Well, one might say the same about orders of cloistered monks, and yet they seem quite happy as well.

Edit: sorry, this was not a reply to TigerLily but to TrBe21!



You do understand she’s entering a convent, right? Like with other people?

I once went on a retreat at a monastery with monks who baked bread. It smelled heavenly—but that’s beside the point. Except for the monks who ran the retreat house they were all cloistered. They took turns running retreats and many often wished for the comradery of the cloister.

One of the guys told me it was like a life-long slumber party with your best friends doing your favorite thing for your entire life where you still feel, at 60, like you are “sneaking out” to do the office at 3am. He was sad when he had to remain “behind” in the retreat house.

And they do have a family. Considering how often I get to see my grandmother since I live far and she cannot travel, she may see her family more than the average “had to move 500 miles for a job SAHM with little kids”


She’s not locked in a prison cell.

I think your view is very limited and based around more guess work then reality.


She’s a young woman of deep faith who is called to a life of prayer and contemplation and obedience. God is the single most important One in her life. Nuns and monks pray for the world, which desperately needs all of our prayers! IMO, there’s nothing wrong with anyone who makes this sacrifice. Also, she’s not a prisoner. She’ll spend a few years before taking final vows and can freely leave if this is not the vocation for her and I’m sure that if 20 years from now she wants to leave, no one will prevent her from doing so.

As for sad, bitter, disillusioned and “wasted” lives, none of us has to enter a monastery or convent for that to happen!

Anyway, most of us are not called to this life and it’s certainly not everyone’s cup of tea!

God Bless!


If that’s what she’s supposed to do, it’s what she’s supposed to do.
Many saints lived lives like that, sometimes much much much much more closed off.


I have the utmost admiration for her. What a massive commitment to make!


Interesting conversation–here is a different view of religious life. I find the writer’s comment that “a certain segment of Catholics want to worship” a person who is in religious life to be true. I think we make the priest or nun holy, so we don’t have to be. We relinquish matters of God to them because they are the “experts” and we can remain respectfully at a distance and not get “too much” involved. I also hear her when she says nuns feel compelled to be “happy and joyous” all the time–seems like a little misplaced pressure.


Better call up St. Therese of Lisieux and tell her all that before she just throws her life away. And dozens of others. In fact, your post is the stuff of all books about nuns from Day 1. It’s like you copied it out of “In This House of Brede” or “The Nun’s Story” where the relatives of the young nuns, and the men who want to date them, are trying to talk them out of their decision.

I’m sure this girl, who seems to have been out in the world living her life at college, has thought about all of this and still feels called to make her choice. Also, if she’s working all day on a ranch with other nuns, she’s likely to have fellowship with them and plenty of “adventures” with the animals.

Bottom line is, it’s not your choice to make. If the young woman had chosen to be a lawyer, I could point to dozens of websites and posts and people I have met in daily life who will go on for paragraphs about how miserable the life of a lawyer is, how she will regret her choice and should choose a different career or be a SAHM. If she became an engineer, I could likewise find a bunch of speeches about how women who enter the engineering profession deal all day with sexism and are miserable. But these are not universal experiences any more than all young girls who become nuns end up miserable and regretting it.

Better to be positive and happy about people’s career choices if they themselves seem positive and happy. If the life turns out not to be for her, she will have time to rethink and leave before she gets to the point of final vows.


No, I only say this because these are my sentiments as I am discerning cloistered religious life as well.


PRAYING for her. We have a niece that is a cloistered Passionist Nun and she is very blessed and happy in her community. SO much peace there. I LOVE the Carmelite Monastery near here (I had thought about being a cloistered Carmelite in High School). The nuns always are smiling and there is so much peace, quietness and beauty there.


Absolutely, agree. Just my opinion. I hope she is truly happy.

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