(DH and I are expecting our third on or about April 30th!~)
A “friend” of mine allowed her daughter, my daughter’s playmate to come over the other day for a visit. The child comes here quite often and usually spends at least one night a weekend! What my “friend” FAILED to tell me is that there is Chickenpox in the home! I could not believe it when the child told me. I just happened to ask how my friend’s grandchild, who lives in the home, was doing! It was casual conversation! Luckily this was early on in the visit!
I am trying to accept that a “friend” would allow her child to come into my home (maybe on more than one occasion!) without informing me of the exposure. Heck, I reconsider letting my child visit other’s homes if she has the SNIFFLES! Fortunately, my children ARE vaccinated, DH and I had it as children, (she had no idea) but even that is not 100%! Her child is vaccinated too as I have learned but that does not mean 100% protection. How could she take a chance with MY family?
Did I mention that my visitor was pale, had dark circles under her eyes, was coughing, and complained of a RASH? I called my insurance 24-hour hotline while the child was here and at one point the nurse asked me to describe her condition. When I did, I was told it was NOT a good idea for my family to be exposed to this child. (Chickenpox or NOT!)
When I called my “friend” to gently explain (I was somewhat shocked at this point but not really angry. I thought she was uninformed!) why I had to bring the child to her daddy’s home early, the friend became belligerent and hung up on me! Then she called me AGAIN, told me her child was NOT a carrier as she was vaccinated, didn’t appreciate what I was ACCUSING her of, said I was a liar in that I did **not **call a health care professional, told me not to call her again then hung up on me AGAIN!
I have not responded in any way, nor do I intend to. I am cutting and running from this person. I have been praying for her and her family however, and will continue to do so. For the record, I asked the child’s father if HE was aware that there was chickenpox in the mother’s home and how exposure could affect others. He said he was aware. At first he laughed and brushed it off. (?) He truly seemed unaware of the ramifications. He even said at one point that he hopes HE does not become infected.
I have observed that my “friend” has exhibited jealousy of my family and me. I won’t get into details. I only mention the jealousy because I believe she deliberately exposed my family to something that was potentially harmful. I am not kidding. I think she WANTED to hurt us. I didn’t think it at first, but after her reaction, I can’t help but think anything else! Am I off the mark here?
My “friend’s” little girl has been like a part of our family. We will all miss this child dearly. I don’t see any way that relationship can continue, unfortunately.
Am I being hormonal? Paranoid? I really don’t think so but I ask your opinions. I am so hurt. I have been praying on this and have been having a hard time letting it go, as I know I should. Maybe by venting here, I will be able to finally get over this. It was a recent event. It’s a raw wound.