Well, I can’t speak to anyone’s situation but my own, but I can tell you that like you, my wife turned to NFP before I did. I am a cradle Catholic but drifted away during college in the late 70’s only to drift back in the 90’s. My wife is a convert. But neither of us had a problem with ABC through the first decade or so of our marriage.
About 10 years ago my wife started learning about NFP and wanted to take a class. I thought she was a nut. :whacky: She no longer took hormonal ABC, but I didn’t see why the more mechanical methods were such a problem. Expecially since the method we used most often wasn’t a “barrier” method. That was the crux of my argument - no physical barrier, no problem.
But she worked on me for a while :banghead: and I eventually agreed to take a class from a couple we knew who taught NFP. While she didn’t cut me off during the “convincing” stage, she made it pretty clear where he head was at on the subject. :console:
After the class, I wan’t exactly sold on the idea, but I agreed to give it a try and NFP became the only method we used. Over time, the whole philosophy behind NFP grew on me to the point that I became a believer. I would like to tell you that there was a “eureka” moment :newidea: , but there wasn’t. It just happened over time.
If he has problems with the reliability of NFP, maybe the effectiveness data will sway him (particularly the recent studies) :coffeeread: . If he is like most guys I know, the squishy part of NFP that they talk about (closeness, respect for the body, awe of the reproductive power of woman, etc.), while true, will not make much of an impact on him at first. Most guys aren’t wired that way. But after a while he will find that all that stuff is true, and he won’t realize when he changed his mind. :doh2:
While I hate to counsel you to go against your conscience, perhaps you could compromise slightly to allow intimacy to continue while working on his heart to get him to an NFP class. Then agree to give it the old college try for a period of time and see what happens. Take small steps and communicate.
I don’t think you’re doomed. Tell him I said it’s worth it. :extrahappy: