I’m sure that this is a frequent issue here but need some help/advice. I found my husband masterbating late at night and he doesn’t know that I saw him. He was in our basement and he appeared to have his phone with him so I can only assume he was probably also watching porn. I’m pretty shocked by it as well as devistated. We just found out I’m pregnant but it’s not like I’m not around for him. I’m also upset because while it was late at night, it could just as easily have been one of our kids (toddlers) that saw it.
Again, he doesn’t know that I know but I’m going to have to address it and I don’t know how. It’s been a couple days and I can’t look him in the eyes and really have no desire to be with him physically now after what I saw. I don’t get it. We practice NFP but haven’t been abstaining at all and actively tried to conceive. How do I approach him? Do I just ask him if he has been watching porn and take the conversation from there?
Thank you for your help!
Edited to add: I did do a search and have reviewed similar posts, I just need to know how to open up the conversation without him shutting down on me, which is how he tends to respond if he feels attacked. I also don’t want to embarrass him, I want to find a solution to it