I’m feeling very frustrated and hurt right now after a fight we had last night. He wanted to go see the movie “Forgetting Sarah Marshall” or “What Happens in Vegas”. Before I see a movie I check the USCCB movie ratings and if it is rated “O” (morally offensive) then I don’t go see it. Both of those were rated “O” so I told him I didn’t want to see them. He kept asking me why so I pulled up the USCCB website and showed him the reviews. He smirked and shook his head and made a comment about me letting the Catholic church make all my decisions for me, etc. (he isn’t Catholic)
I told him that I don’t enjoy sitting through movies filled with profanity, nudity, gratuitous sex, toilet humor…and that he should respect that I don’t want to fill my mind with trash. He said he doesn’t respect that, and that as married couples we are supposed to be able to go out and enjoy things together, but I don’t want to go do any of the things HE wants to do, therefore I’m being selfish. I replied that I agree we should do things together, but not things that compromise my values. His response to that was “so are you going to just continue to become more and more uptight?”
I really don’t think I’m in the wrong here…and I don’t think that being a spouse means having to do anything and everything that your spouse wants you to do, despite the fact that it makes you feel uncomfortable or goes against your values.
He used to care a lot about religion and spirituality when we were dating, but since marriage he has shown very little interest and has even become critical of the church. Anyhow…mostly just venting, but also asking for prayers. Thank you