Someone close to me recently had her husband leave her on her bday. They have two small children. The youngest one is sad, and the older one is “angry” and “hates” her father.
This woman left the Catholic Church 10 years prior due to this man who “evangelized” her and “saved” her. So sometimes it is hard when she tells me her feelings and sometimes asks me questions because her beliefs are so different than mine now.
I have a hard time with these:
- I don’t believe in divorce and remarriage, but he did this not me. He left us, so I have to do what I have to do.
- God may have caused this to bring me someone better soon, He wouldn’t want us to live alone.
When asked about moving from her current home due to possible retaliation from her husband who left (whom was served up divorce papers just a few days back):
3) I just have to have faith that’s all.
In case 1: I have a hard time with this cause I don’t believe divorce is “okay” simply cause one spouse decided to leave. Her point though is that God wouldn’t want her to live miserable the rest of her life so she has to find someone eventually to make her happy.
In case 2: Kind of related to case 1, I have a hard time with this one because it makes it seem like God caused the divorce and may be the cause of broken families to bring something “better” along.
In case 3: Where she says she just has to have faith that this guy won’t come around and do her family harm. I have a problem here cause many people of great faith suffered great harm including the Apostles. We can have faith but also we can run from persecution or hide.
Any thoughts of how to make these points logically and with clarity? If it helps to know: she is a member of Calvary Chapel.