I made an account just to post about this. I am feeling very embarrassed about it. My husband and I have been married 4-months now. Before we were married, we had great chemistry. We had to be vary carefully to not become physical. It was something we struggled with. One thing I was looking forward in the marriage (among many things) was not having to worry about that. We could finally be together and not on gaurd.
Well, the wedding came. The first month or so, we were together almost every day we could. We are TTA right now, so that ends up being around 13 days a month. The next couple months that dropped to maybe 7 times a month. This last month we were together twice.
It makes me very sad and feel unwanted. I talk to him about it and he says it isn’t me, that he is just tired and not in the mood. I still can’t help but feel hurt. I feel ashamed that I want to be with him more than me. Especially as the girl. I feel tired of asking and him saying no - to the point that if he wanted to be with me now, I would have a hard time saying yes. It feels like how will I be able to open up to him again after being rejected so much. Even writing this has me tearing up. We have talked about it q number of times. I don’t know what else to do.