I had started another thread about this a couple of months ago, but that one is now locked as being 14 days old. Here is the link to the original: Husband texting other women - please help
So we have been in marriage therapy for a few sessions now, but the therapist has mainly concentrated on a couple of other key issues in our marriage. I keep thinking we are going to come back to talk about the texting incidents, which was the original reason I set up the appointment, but so far it has not happened. I do plan to bring it up myself next time and specifically ask if we can talk about it.
We are both completely new to therapy and unfamiliar with what to expect. What I am finding out is that marriage/couples therapy focuses on the the relationship itself as the client rather than us as individuals. Also, I found out that our therapist doesn’t do individual therapy to people who are in couples counseling as we currently are. I don’t know exactly what I am trying to ask here except maybe for some advice on what to do next with the therapist (or with a different therapist)? Like the relationship counseling has been somewhat helpful but it seems to me that we are skipping over whatever deeper issues my husband may have that motivated him to do what he did. Maybe we can’t get that without switching to individual therapy?
Plus, it has been quite a while now since the original incident, but I never got any closure or any real answers on why he did it. Attempting to talk about it with my husband never did prove very productive, but I just figured we would be talking about it in counseling/therapy. (Sorry for the long post.)