Boo: You are absolutely correct about the custody issue as I also had that very same fear and with good reason since my X made an incredible salary also. Knowing that was my big fear, he would use that for control and tell me he would fight for custody and win and take our son overseas and I would never see him because he had the money to follow through and I was a stay at home Mom.
Here's my question to you: what will you do when he forces your hand?? When your only option is to call the police and have him removed because circumstances will eventually escalate and you now have to act??
Make no mistake----I have plenty of compassion and tenderness---for the children. For a woman that prefers to complain and play on the internet ? Not so much. Why---because you have a choice your baby does not.
Oh and of course NO ONE can help you—not even the Church is helping you, not even the lawyer you spoke to.
And of course no one has enough compassion especially when they tell you like it is and not give you the endless “poor, poor thing” or the pat on the back for being the perceived "Good Mother".
Of course-----I'm not tenderhearted, compassionate, and oh so judge mental and let's not forget tooting my own horn. Of course your right about all that---oh well, it's my cross whenever I see a woman that prefers to allow her kid to live in squaller for 18 years being neglected, abused, abandoned yada, yada.
Here's your exact words re-read them and then tell me how much boohooing you still expect:
“But my husband does not want me around and his abuse, neglect, hyper-control of me, occassional abandonement, disregard, degredation, putting his adult children first before me and our minor children, humiliation, dishonor of me and even neglect & abandonement of our toddler are the by products of what he tells me all the time.”
And a few paragraphs later:
“I am not being petty when I speak of abuse. My toddler & I ended up in a "safe house" because of my husband's abuse and neglect and at this point, he has put us in a camping trailer and abandoned us in a campground while he goes on with his life as though we don;t exist and only his adult daughters matter.”
In your next post you state that:
“he kept us trapped in a dilapidated mobilehome trailer full of water leaks and toxic black mold. My son & I were always sick”.
“my husband does not let me have access to any of our accounts and money,”
You sure have an awful lot of fight in you for such an abused woman it makes me wonder why you are still with him. Oh, that’s right. Please see below:
“Someone asked, what is keeping me with him? I do love him,”
It never ceases to amaze me when a woman comes on the internet and tells the whole world the ongoing abuse she and the children are subjected to and then becomes indignant when someone doesn’t dole out the sympathy and is actually honest with them.