Hello & Merry Christmas, everyone.
My husband and I are in a deadlock and I do not know where to turn. He wants to move back to the town where we both grew up and I do not. He wants to move because his friends, parents and sister live there, the town has more parks, beaches, biking trails, etc. (he is a very outdoorsy person) and it is more compact. Where we live now it is more rural and it takes a while to get anywhere. We've been married almost 4 years and have lived here the whole time, but he has been very unhappy here. I don't want to move mainly because of strained relationships with his family. He is the youngest of 4 children and was the first to get married, so I am the first in-law and am still somewhat considered an outsider by his family. My husband and his family have ganged up on me on numerous occasions regarding all sorts of things. He generally does not defend me but sides with his family against me. He does not try to help them get to know me or understand me; he just insists that I change to fit their mold. We had our first baby 7 months ago and the in-law relationships have worsened. His mother is obsessed with the baby (she is the first grandchild) and if we were to move, I know his mother would be at our place all the time. I love living where we are because it helps me to maintain my sanity. And anyway, the town where my in-laws live (and where my husband wants to move) is only 30 minutes north of here. I would be so grateful for your advice, insight and prayers. Thank you in advance.