Husbands, wives: What's Your Chore List?


#1

Inpsired by another thread recently, I’m curious to know how the chore breakdown looks in other catholic families. List who does the following chores. M=man W=woman B=50/50 H=hired help. Be honest. Only select B if it really is about 50/50. If she does it 70%, pick W. Answers for me are in parentheses.

  1. Cook (W)
  2. Dishes (M)
  3. Mow lawn (M)
  4. Clean toilets. (M)
  5. Vacuum (W)
  6. Laundry (B)
  7. Bathe kids (M)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (B)
  10. Mop (M)
  11. Pickup clutter (W)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (W)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (M)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (H)

We have a few rules for fairness. Whoever cooks doesn’t do dishes. Nothing is ALWAYS done by one, except 3 and 8. (She has allergies and I’m at work.) Tends to avoid taking things for granted.


#2
  1. Cook (W)
  2. Dishes (W)
  3. Mow lawn (N/A)
  4. Clean toilets. (W)
  5. Vacuum (W)
  6. Laundry (W)
  7. Bathe kids (M)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (W)
  10. Mop (W)
  11. Pickup clutter (W)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (W)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (B)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (M w/help from his dad)

#3
  1. Cook (W)
  2. Dishes (W)
  3. Mow lawn (M)
  4. Clean toilets. (W)
  5. Vacuum (W)
  6. Laundry (B)
  7. Bathe kids (B)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (W)
  10. Mop (W)
  11. Pickup clutter (W)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (W)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (W)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (H)

#4

Special circumstances on ours, I work and DH is a SAHD. DS is 15.

  1. Cook (All – DS, M and W)
  2. Dishes (M)
  3. Mow lawn (M and DS)
  4. Clean toilets. (M)
  5. Vacuum (M)
  6. Laundry (M)
  7. Bathe kids (Son has bathed himself since age 6)
  8. Kid care during day (NA)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (Each family cleans the shower or tub after they use it)
  10. Mop (M)
  11. Pickup clutter (B & DS)
  12. Bills (M)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (M)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (M, DS)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (M, DS, H)

#5
  1. Cook (W)
  2. Dishes (W)
  3. Mow lawn (W)
  4. Clean toilets. (W)
  5. Vacuum (W)
  6. Laundry (W)
  7. Bathe kids (W)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (W)
  10. Mop (W)
  11. Pickup clutter (W)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (W)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (W)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (H)
    **16. Spend his bacon ( W ) :smiley: **

This is how it was when the kids were young. The ‘kids’ bath themselves now…and drive themselves around. I hope they are taking care of themselves.


#6

[quote=kage_ar]Special circumstances on ours, I work and DH is a SAHD. DS is 15.

  1. Cook (All – DS, M and W)
  2. Dishes (M)
  3. Mow lawn (M and DS)
  4. Clean toilets. (M)
  5. Vacuum (M)
  6. Laundry (M)
  7. Bathe kids (Son has bathed himself since age 6)
  8. Kid care during day (NA)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (Each family cleans the shower or tub after they use it)
  10. Mop (M)
  11. Pickup clutter (B & DS)
  12. Bills (M)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (M)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (M, DS)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (M, DS, H)
    [/quote]

I glanced at your LIST first and thought…WHERE DID YOU FIND THAT MAN…

Then I noticed SAHD…still I thought…WHERE DID YOU FIND THAT MAN!


#7
  1. Cook (W)
  2. Dishes (W)
  3. Mow lawn (M)
  4. Clean toilets. (M)
  5. Vacuum (B)
  6. Laundry (W)
  7. Bathe kids (W)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (B)
  10. Mop (W)
  11. Pickup clutter (B)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (B)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (M)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (M)

#8
  1. Cook (W) he mans the grill sometimes
  2. Dishes (W)
  3. Mow lawn (M )
  4. Clean toilets. (W)
  5. Vacuum (W)
  6. Laundry (W)
  7. Bathe kids (B)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (W)
  10. Mop (W)
  11. Pickup clutter (W) assuming this means underwear on bathroon floor also!!!
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (W)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (W)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (M)
  16. Do All Bookkeeping for Family Business (W)

#9

As soon as I see an M next to (clean the tiolets) I think…WHERE DID YOU FIND THAT MAN?? :eek:


#10

[quote=DJgang]I glanced at your LIST first and thought…WHERE DID YOU FIND THAT MAN…

Then I noticed SAHD…still I thought…WHERE DID YOU FIND THAT MAN!
[/quote]

He is also a devout Catholic, does our car repairs, plays piano and teaches 7th grade CCD!

Oh yeah, and when I had surgery and could not bend for weeks - he shaved my legs for me.

I’d not trade him for anything :slight_smile:


#11
  1. Cook (W)
  2. Dishes (W)
  3. Mow lawn (H)
  4. Clean toilets. (W)
  5. Vacuum (n/a - no carpet)
  6. Laundry (W)
  7. Bathe kids (W)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (W)
  10. Mop (B)
  11. Pickup clutter (W & kids)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (Mostly W, occasionally M if two directions at the same time)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (B)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (M, H)

#12
  1. Cook (B)
  2. Dishes (mom - lives w/ us)
  3. Mow lawn (M)
  4. Clean toilets. (W)
  5. Vacuum (M)
  6. Laundry (B)
  7. Bathe kids (n/a - grown - W when they were small)
  8. Kid care during day (n/a - grown - mom when they were small)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (W)
  10. Mop (W)
  11. Pickup clutter (B)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (W)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (M)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (M)

#13
  1. Cook (W)
  2. Dishes (W)
  3. Mow lawn (M)
  4. Clean toilets. (W)
  5. Vacuum (W)
  6. Laundry (W
  7. Bathe kids (W)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (W)
  10. Mop (W)
  11. Pickup clutter (W)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (N/A- yet!)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (B)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (M)

Should we add a #16: BRINGS HOME THE BACON ? :smiley: For us that’s (M)

And contemplative also added another good one!
SPENDS HIS BACON (W) :stuck_out_tongue:


#14
  1. Cook (M)
  2. Dishes (M)
  3. Mow lawn (W)
  4. Clean toilets. (W)
  5. Vacuum (M)
  6. Laundry (M)
  7. Bathe kids (W)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (M)
  10. Mop (M)
  11. Pickup clutter (W)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (W)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (W)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (H)

#15
  1. Cook (W)
  2. Dishes (W)
  3. Mow lawn (W)
  4. Clean toilets. (W)
  5. Vacuum (B)
  6. Laundry (W)
  7. Bathe kids (W)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (W)
  10. Mop (B)
  11. Pickup clutter (W)
  12. Bills (W)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (W)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (W)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) (B H)

Brings home bacon (B)


#16

[quote=kage_ar]He is also a devout Catholic, does our car repairs, plays piano and teaches 7th grade CCD!

Oh yeah, and when I had surgery and could not bend for weeks - he shaved my legs for me.

I’d not trade him for anything :slight_smile:
[/quote]

You are truly blessed.

The day after I got home from the hospital after having DS (Csection) and nursing through the night. Asked DH what about breakfast. He says oh I had coffee. And here I cannot pull myself off the bed ( hospital bed rails were great) and he does not even bother to get me something.


#17

I KNEW it! I need to renegotiate. :smiley:


#18

Right now, I do it all (or my hired cleaning lady) since hubby is deployed! :smiley: But prior to him leaving…

  1. Cook (W)
  2. Dishes (W)
  3. Mow lawn - no yard to mow :frowning:
  4. Clean toilets (W)
  5. Vacuum (M)
  6. Laundry (M)
  7. Bathe kids (W)
  8. Kid care during day (W)
  9. Clean sinks/showers (W)
  10. Mop (M)
  11. Pickup clutter (W)
  12. Bills (M)
  13. Chauffer kids to activities (B)
  14. Lite projects (paint, put up curtains, hang pictures) (B)
  15. Heavy projects (finish basement, rehab kitchen/bath) - n/a
  16. Bringing home the bacon (main=M; ‘extra’=W)
  17. Spending the bacon (W)

How about…
18. Grocery shopping (W)
19. Trash and Recycling (M)

Hey! No wonder I needed a cleaning lady. I could barely keep up before he left, now add the job of the floors, laundry, and trash :eek: Thank you for justifying having her :smiley:


#19

We don’t work this way and never have. We just do what needs doing when it needs doing.

Now there are a few things that either he or I just do.

For example, in the 12 years that we’ve had cat(s), which I’ll admit are more mine than anyones, I have never scooped the kitty litterbox more than maybe twice. My dh has always done this, mostly because I’m pregnant on a regular basis. (Nice to have a little perk for that isn’t it?:wink: )

Then there’s organizing/switching out seasonal clothes, which my dh would really not think about at all until it snowed and there weren’t any coats or sweaters for the kids to wear in the closet - so I always do that and make a list of what kids need what clothes for the next season.

Day to day stuff, we do as we go. Usually together or me and the kids do it as maintence during the day.


#20

Ours doesn’t break down like that list. Pretty much everything is split 50/50, with the exception of yardwork, because of my allergies/asthma. If something needs done, someone does it.


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