Note, I am 17 and a Catholic novice, so if this sounds, weird, inarticulate, stupid, offensive, etc. please do not be too harsh on me. I am sorry if I cannot articulate the problem well, but this has been bugging me for a while now. I have read Ratzinger’s Introduction to Christianity not too long ago and there was this point repeated constantly that man does not live and cannot live by himself or for himself. Even God is a mutual exchange of Persons, and so mankind must exist in a relationship with one another and with God. It is hard to explain; that book was pretty dense and took forever to read and I hope there are people here who know what I am talking about. I do not disagree with any of his arguments, but that got me thinking about a certain scenario when leading a good Christian life would be extremely difficult based on the principle of this inter-connection.
I am not sure how common this is, but I was wondering how can someone grow in holiness, love thy neighbor, when he or she has some sort of deep flaw or disorder of the personality or mind that not only keeps them from being able to maintain relationships, but can easily do massive damage to the lives of anyone who gets close to him or her. This person can hold down a job, but cannot have friends or a spouse because of certain tendencies that are fixed or, at least, appear fixed. Yet, this person recognizes that potential damage he or she could do. And let say, out of love for others, he or she isolates themselves or socializes only casually but keeps others from getting too close in such a manner that no one know him or her well as a person.
I know this is kind of weird and sorry if I am not being articulate, but what is there left for someone in this situation? It is out of love that this person avoids closeness with others as if he or she is carrying the plague, but how can they continue to love his or her neighbors, to give selflessly of him or herself to others, the rest of his or her life after that point? Sure, he or she can still have a relationship with God, but, at least in my experience, God is very difficult to pray to, talk to, or even have a clear idea of if one has difficultly with relativity on the human level. Maybe there would be less difficultly without the Trinity, but that is not the case.
So this person cannot make close contact with others in order to love according to his or her faith, nor would it be easy for him or her to pray. Does such a situation actually exist or , do people who have such serious problems generally are not aware they have a problem and try to go about normally? Or, if people do actually feel as though they could emotionally, socially, spiritually, but not physically harm others unintentionally and easily are mistaken in thinking they are like a land mine or something. I am not talking about potential physical damage. When this comes to mind, I often think of the times when there is a thread on which someone asks for help with a problem relative or friend that makes the lives of those around him or her hell without violence. That would be closer to what I am thinking of, but in my hypothetical scenario, the person knows his or her tendencies and takes preventative measures via isolation.
I hope I am being clear and this was not a waste of a thread. This scenario has been on my mind a while and I figured I will never get over it until I present it to someone. I hope I did not break any forum rules. I did not intend to do so. I am not asking for mental health advice, this goes more along the lines of person cannot do A and B and what can he or she do or has C and D that pose as a challenge towards living his or her Faith what can he or she do? Or, if this is not an actual problem occurring in real life let me know. Thanks.