[quote="Southy82, post:8, topic:253201"]
Well, it's been going on two years since I started this thread and only three months since we've had ANOTHER child! My wife survived this last pregnancy, but it was definitely scary in the operating room.
My wife was under general anesthesia, and the C-section took twice as long as it normally did. I was afraid she was going to die. There was so much blood lost. At one point, the doctor looked over at me and must have seen my eyes popping out of my head, because he said, "She's going to be ok. It's just that every time I try to stitch her uterus together, the tissue tears apart. So, I'm going to use a special bandage." The doctor then put on this special bandage that formed some type of lattice work for him to sew the uterus back together.
The crisis was averted. We had another beautiful baby, and my wife has made a full recovery. The doctor still advised against having anymore children. He knows we're Catholic, so he didn't even suggest birth control or tubal ligation :D
I tried contacting the organizations in the posts above, but was never contacted by either. I guess this wheel will just have to get squeaky.
This is a very difficult situation. At this point, we're just not intimate anymore. We tried using an Ovacue meter last time, which seemed to work for a while, but then my wife started taking a medication, that unbeknownst to us caused her to be more fertile and gave us inaccurate readings.
My wife says it's not good for us to continue to be non-intimate indefinitely. I am compelled to agree with her...really compelled, trust me. I just don't see any other option.
Well, I don't know why I posted this. Just venting I guess.
I'm not familiar with the Ovacue monitor, but if it doesn't work well for you and your wife, have you considered trying another type of NFP? Perhaps the sympto-thermal method, or maybe the Creighton method? I'm not very familiar with the Creighton method, but the STM would at least be able to give you a minimum of 10-12 days per month if used very conservatively, i.e., only during Stage 3 when ovulation has been confirmed and, if you're ok with it, the first couple of days of her period. If used that way, there simply isn't a physiological way that she could get pregnant--I mean, to get pregnant you need the sp*erm and the egg to meet, and if the egg's already gone, then that can't happen. The STM is the one taught by the Couple-to-Couple league, and seems to be the most popular method, though I know a lot of people also swear by Creighton. The book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler is an EXCELLENT manual for the STM (frankly, it's better than most Catholic resources that I've found in that it's much more in-depth), though do be aware that she isn't writing from a Catholic perspective, so ignore her suggestions for using barrier methods of birth control during fertile times.
I'm glad that everything worked out well this time. Congratulations on the new little one! :)