First, I would like to thank everyone for their imput, varied as it is. I am especially impressed by the love I have found on these forums, and the lack of condemnation. Most people on this forum seem to stand for strong moral principles, while also showing an exceptional love.
I find this very impressive.
Though I believe that the Church Militant’s teaching concerning contraception can change, because it is not an infallible matter of faith and morals, I am a lay person. More so, I am a lay person who assists in teaching catechism.
Though I may hold these personal beliefs which are at odds with the teaching of the Church, I do not find it responsible to share my reasons with anyone, at risk of heresy.
For maybe I am wrong, and if I am, but if my reasons are found to be good reasons by someone, or if I scandalize the faith to someone curious about the faith, or if I misrepresent the Church either here or, even worse, to those in the classes I help teach, and lead them into error, I would be responsible for both deceiving myself and deceiving them.
As a responsible lay-person, I will not outright defend contraception at this time, nor will I identify myself in my support of contraception.
But I still practice contraception with my wife, and I find nothing wrong with doing so, even after reading “Theology of the Body”, and also St. Augustine who has said:
“Of all sins belonging to lust, that which is against nature (contracepting) is the worst.”
And St. Thomas Aquinas, agreeing with St. Augustine, who also said(Q 154, Art. 12, Rep. Obj. 2):
“Vices against nature are also against God… and are so much more grievous than the depravity of sacrilege, as the order impressed on human nature is prior to and more firm than any subsequently established order.”
Though I know and understand this, I still find no real sin in contracepting. I am speaking with a strong Dominican Priest about it in private (I am in the Fraternity of St. Dominic, called once the Third Order) so as to be able to share my reasons, find them challenged, and still not risk accidentally leading one of God’s Own away from Him, as is a real risk. But as for a forum accessible by laity, I cannot in good conscience share my reasons with you all.
So I will state that I contracept, and should this not change, is it honest of me to still share Catholic teaching to others? Is it honest of me to even still consider myself a Catholic?
The responses to these questions thus far have been mixed. So have they been from the Dominicans, who though they agree I am Roman Catholic, and should be allowed to teach RCIA so long as I keep my personal and erroneous views to myself, are not certain among themselves that I should continue to participate in RCIA, or that I should consider myself Catholic, since what I believe is at odds with what the Church teaches.
These Dominicans also do not agree entirely among themselves that the Church’s teaching concerning contraception is truly infallible teaching, though all of them say they have little doubt as to its being correct teaching.
Again, I open it up to you, as I would like to hear more. Should I continue with RCIA, do you think? Should I continue to consider myself, and to call myself, Catholic? Or, if my beliefs concerning contraception are not to change at all, would the Anglican Church be better for me?
I am interested in your views.