i am here looking for a good catholic husband

hello i am 18 looking for a good catholic husband who wants to get married in the catholic church and wants to use nfp does not swear does not look at porn or commit adultery

Aren’t we all :D.

Hi there! How long have you been discerning? :slight_smile:

I think that’s wonderful. (If you were a boy saying the same thing, I’d “cyber introduce” you to my daughter! :))

I’m sure you’ll get some valuable input from this forum. The people here are just great.

At 18 you should NOT be looking for a husband. That’s WAY too young.

Have you ever tried any Catholic dating sites?

You can also try THIS group. It’s pretty inactive though.

I’ve seen advertisements for this website on these forums. Perhaps you should check it out.

catholicsingles.com/

Although I have to agree with Rascalking; 18 is pretty young to be getting married (especially in modern times)

I AGREE with Rascalking. Once you marry you are suck with the person your whole life. My parents are divorced (too much fighting, yelling, and 911 calls). I am 18 and I am looking for colleges to go to…heck, marriage is NOT the only vocation out there. If I were you I would reconsider the matter…

Shoot people, it’s not uncommon for people to date for 3 or 4 years before marriage. She’s looking for someone to date for crying out loud.

Dating is good as dating is to discern marriage -but make sure you are doing things in the meantime to make your life more well-rounded such as your education, etc. You are awfully young depending on culture- where are you from?

The OP is the same person as another CAF member with the CAF name of Morgan Kozuch. She posted a few days ago looking for Catholic facebook friends. She already claims to have a boyfriend per her facebook. I am not sure why she would post in this thread about wanting a good Catholic husband when she already has a boyfriend.

18 is very young to be considering marriage. Many on here claim to be considering marriage in the 18-25 year range. That age range is very young these days to be considering marriage and does not represent the reality in real life. In reality, most people 18-25 are not considering marriage. Most are trying to establish themselves and build a career. Marriage is the least of the worries of many young adults. Many who marry that young either get divorced, regret it, or make personal sacrifices to their own career and life to get married.

Many people go to graduate school now so many arent even finished with school until age 25-28.

Alot of young adults dont want a family or marriage. They see their parents drama and do not wish to have the same life for themselves.

This site isn’t a dating service. You need to be careful to protect your identity and whereabouts, as this is open to the public and anyone can register and post.

I suggest that you look at sites specifically for dating and marriage if that is your goal. Ave Maria Singles, www.avemariasingles.com, is very reputable. However, even on Catholic dating sites you must still be cautious.

You are young. Take your time and discern carefully. Try meeting Catholics your own age in your town or when you go to college. And, make sure you are not looking to get married for the wrong reasons.

It’s not too young to start dating, though. Assuming she marries the first man she meets she’d be married young, but not if it takes a couple of tries and misses.

Good luck to you!

Really? 'Cause I bet there are dozens of people on here who could prove that wrong. Myself included.

As much as I hate to be honest, if you are looking for man like that, thats fine, but come on, lets be realistic here. You won’t find a guy who is perfect. You might as well wait, till the boys mature a bit. I know mannyyyy guys your age, and no matter how religious they are, they are not ready to get married. Please wait, its for your benefit. Either way, I hope the best for you. But why do you want to get married so quickly?

Every girl would love to have a guy who does not do what you listed- but thats not realistic. And at age 18, I suggest you wait a bit. Just giving you a heads up.

I suggest that at your age, you are better off finding somebody in real life to REALLY know how they are than online. :thumbsup:

I’m looking for a good Catholic husband too. I haven’t had any luck yet. :shrug:

How about instead of looking for somebody, you live your life? The one will show up eventually. But don’t waste your time over it.

I myself am looking for a good catholic husband. I disagree with what a PP said, I actually want to get married despite of/because of my parents short comings. I am my own person, with my own Faith and my own relationship with God to guide me. I don’t plan to naively go into marriage (when I meet the right guy) thinking I won’t make their mistakes but I will know what to look for and hopefully my husband and I will be able to make better decisions for us and our family than they did for theirs.

Also I don’t think there is an ideal age to get married, although some people need a little more time to mature than others

What I coincidence! I’m 22 and looking for a good Catholic wife… :stuck_out_tongue: Joking, Joking, haha

Seriously, 18 is a difficult time for discerning marriage. Boys at that age, are stupid, even us good Catholic boys! My personality and faith really haven’t changed since I was 18, but my experience with life has greatly expanded since college. Learning to live a fulfilling AND virtuous life in such a, at times, difficult and debaucherous environment has given me much better confidence that living the Catholic faith, with Christ’s help, is possible.

One of the things I learned along the way is that dating must be a process of discernment, not an end goal. I had my heart broken by a girl because we dated long after she decided that she didn’t want to marry me, but she didn’t tell me! Marriage requires a lot of openness and honesty (and grace!), and while young, its difficult to achieve this.

I also learned that there is no distinction between a “dating relationship” and a “friendship”. A marriage, at its core, must be a friendship. Your spouse should be your best friend! The one that will always have your back. When dating someone, it must be about exploring compatibility and trust - way too many relationships around your age, (and mine), are about sex, or even among “good” Christians, just making out. Lust has a way of taking the “edge off” of personality incompatibilities, making ones partner seem perfect. But its mostly just because a monochromatic picture of the person one gets through, how shall we say, limited selection of activities.

Finally, and I think this is by far the most difficult aspect of discerning marriage at a young age, is that marriage works best when it is a self sustaining relationship. In high school and college, almost always student loans and/or parents are paying for most of it, so you are basically living in a four year resort. Too many of my friends are playing house right now on their parent’s dime - “but it feels like we’re married” they tell me. Marriages exist in the real world, before God. Dating needs to reflect and respect this. Play acting hides one’s true character - how many actors and actresses have successful marriages? :frowning: (Sadly, I’ve seen many of my parents friends divorce because of this, even my dad’s best friend/brother’s godfather. It was tough to watch).

You’re on a good start. Here at Catholic Answers, your more likely to find more faithful catholic boys than schmucks, but take your time with things, develop friendships, and respect the emotional (and sexual) boundaries between marriage and ordinary friendships. Dating relationships should be treated as a transitional step, not the end goal, and friendships “with benefits” should just plain be avoided!

Remember, all good friendship’s should reflect God’s love.

Enough babbling, Good Luck, and God Bless!

What I coincidence! I’m 22 and looking for a good Catholic wife… :stuck_out_tongue: Joking, Joking, haha

Seriously, 18 is a difficult time for discerning marriage. Boys at that age, are stupid, even us good Catholic boys! My personality and faith really haven’t changed since I was 18, but my experience with life has greatly expanded since college. Learning to live a fulfilling AND virtuous life in such a, at times, difficult and debaucherous environment has given me much better confidence that living the Catholic faith, with Christ’s help, is possible.

One of the things I learned along the way is that dating must be a process of discernment, not an end goal. I had my heart broken by a girl because we dated long after she decided that she didn’t want to marry me, but she didn’t tell me! Marriage requires a lot of openness and honesty (and grace!), and while young, its difficult to achieve this.

I also learned that there is no distinction between a “dating relationship” and a “friendship”. A marriage, at its core, must be a friendship. Your spouse should be your best friend! The one that will always have your back. When dating someone, it must be about exploring compatibility and trust - way too many relationships around your age, (and mine), are about sex, or even among “good” Christians, just making out. Lust has a way of taking the “edge off” of personality incompatibilities, making ones partner seem perfect. But its mostly just because a monochromatic picture of the person one gets through, how shall we say, limited selection of activities.

Finally, and I think this is by far the most difficult aspect of discerning marriage at a young age, is that marriage works best when it is a self sustaining relationship. In high school and college, almost always student loans and/or parents are paying for most of it, so you are basically living in a four year resort. Too many of my friends are playing house right now on their parent’s dime - “but it feels like we’re married” they tell me. Marriages exist in the real world, before God. Dating needs to reflect and respect this. Play acting hides one’s true character - how many actors and actresses have successful marriages? :frowning: (Sadly, I’ve seen many of my parents friends divorce because of this, even my dad’s best friend/brother’s godfather. It was tough to watch).

You’re on a good start. Here at Catholic Answers, your more likely to find more faithful catholic boys than schmucks, but take your time with things, develop friendships, and respect the emotional (and sexual) boundaries between marriage and ordinary friendships. Dating relationships should be treated as a transitional step, not the end goal, and friendships “with benefits” should just plain be avoided!

Remember, all good friendship’s should reflect God’s love.

Enough babbling, Good Luck, and God Bless!

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