I am like St Augustine of Hippo


#1

But not in the good holy way :( More like a womanizer. So for the past 2 years I've gone back and forth with the "player" lifestyle and I really want to stop, and be close to God as much as possible. It's funny I attend EF mass every Sunday go the confession as much as possible, read books especially those of St Augustine (who is my confirmation Saint) and once I think I am out of that life I am pulled back by my own choice. Right now I am "dating" 4 beautiful girls, and I really want to pursue something with one (I haven't been intimate with either of them YAY!) But the problem is that the one I really like the most isn't a Catholic in good standing and I am afraid that I can end up losing my faith once again over a girl. I guess the only thing I am asking is for some prayers so hopefully I can live the life the Father wants me to live and maybe she can convert by my example. But abstaining will/is probably my greatest challenge. Also any advise anyone can give in order to reduce the temptations? Sorry if I posted this on the wrong section.


#2

St Augustine is my confirmation saint as well! Have you tried praying and asking St Augustine to intercede for you? I have found that when I have a particular sin I am having problems getting away from, St. Augustine's intercession helps greatly. Don't feel bad about wanting a relationship with a girl who's not in good standing with the Church, my girlfriend isn't even baptized and her mom is anti-Catholic. Another thing I would recommend is to begin a devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus. I myself have a strong devotion to the Sacred Heart (on my desk I have an image of the Sacred Heart of Jesus, Immaculate Heart of Mary, and a photograph of Pope Benedict XVI -- the first two angled towards the photograph, so I remember to pray for our Pope when I pray) and find it really helpful. You can probably find a cheap but nice print of the Sacred Heart at a local Catholic shop, and then the blessing from the priest should be free. You can find prayers online if you don't have a prayer book. Also, here is an adaptation of the Sacred Heart Chaplet for the Dominican Rosary (the five-decade rosary):
catholicdoors.com/prayers/chaplets/chap24.htm

Sacred Heart of Jesus, have mercy on us!


#3

**Pray that you are as courageous as St. Augustine & never stop searching for the fullness of the Truth!

Papa Benedictus XVI taught us this week about St. Augustine;**

Pope Benedict XVI exhorts world to follow St. Augustine in not fearing the Truth

Castel Gandolfo, Italy, Aug 25, 2010 / 06:10 am (CNA/EWTN News).- Addressing all people on their “walk” on Earth, the Holy Father called on Wednesday for a continued search for the "profound truth,"after the example of St. Augustine. Referring to the example of this Church Father, he said that no one should be afraid to encounter the Truth, which could “find us, get hold of us and change our lives.” Pope Benedict addressed around 3,500 people between those gathered in the outer square and those in the inner courtyard of the Pontifical Villa at Castel Gandolfo for Wednesday’s general audience.

He spoke of the importance of the saints being “travel companions” for all people on their earthly pilgrimage, saying that "everyone should have a saint that is familiar to them, to feel their proximity with prayer and intercession, but also to imitate them."
The saints can be of great help as guides to loving the Lord and aiding human and Christian growth, the Pope said, pointing out his own personal links to Sts. Joseph and Benedict. He explained that he has also had the “great gift of closely knowing” St. Augustine through study and prayer.

Referring to this 5th-century saint as “a good ‘travel companion’” in his ministry and life, the Pope said that St. Augustine’s “restless and constant search for Truth” is “still current in our age when it seems like relativism is paradoxically the ‘truth’ that must guide thoughts, choices and behaviors.”

Pointing out the lack of superficiality in the saint’s life, Benedict XVI explained that he did not seek “pseudo-truths incapable of giving lasting peace to the heart,” but rather, he looked for “that Truth that gives meaning to existence and is ‘the shelter’ in which the heart finds serenity and joy.”

While St. Augustine’s route was a difficult one, the Pope recalled, an important element of his life was that "he never stopped, he was never contented with that which gave him just a glimmer of light.

“He knew how to look into the intimacy of himself and he realized … that that Truth, that God that he sought with his strength was more intimate to him than himself, He was always beside him, He had never abandoned him, He was waiting to be able to enter in a definitive way in his life.”

Augustine understood that he did not find the truth, but it was “the very Truth, that is God, that sought and found him,” the Holy Father specified.
Reaching the core his message, Pope Benedict said, "often we prefer to live just a passing moment, deceiving ourselves that it brings lasting happiness; we prefer to live - because it seems easier - with superficiality, without thinking; indeed, we are scared to seek the truth or maybe we are scared that the Truth might find us, get hold of us and change our lives, as happened for St. Augustine.

]"Dear brothers and sisters, I would like to say to everyone, also to those who are in a moment of difficulty on their walk of faith, or also to those who participate little in the life of the Church or to those who live ‘as if God didn’t exist,’ not to be afraid of the Truth, not to ever interrupt the walk towards it, not to ever cease searching for the profound truth about themselves and about the things with ‘the interior eye’ of the heart."
Concluding his address, he said, “God will not fail to give the Light to show and the Heat to make the heart feel that He loves us and that He desires to be loved.”

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Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, Ora pro Nobis Peccatoribus!

mark


#4

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But not in the good holy way :( More like a womanizer. So for the past 2 years I've gone back and forth with the "player" lifestyle and I really want to stop, and be close to God as much as possible. It's funny I attend EF mass every Sunday go the confession as much as possible, read books especially those of St Augustine (who is my confirmation Saint) and once I think I am out of that life I am pulled back by my own choice. Right now I am "dating" 4 beautiful girls, and I really want to pursue something with one (I haven't been intimate with either of them YAY!) But the problem is that the one I really like the most isn't a Catholic in good standing and I am afraid that I can end up losing my faith once again over a girl. I guess the only thing I am asking is for some prayers so hopefully I can live the life the Father wants me to live and maybe she can convert by my example. But abstaining will/is probably my greatest challenge. Also any advise anyone can give in order to reduce the temptations? Sorry if I posted this on the wrong section.

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for advise, at the top of the page is a tab "chastity" it has great a question and answer sectionon purity and relationships. Prayers on the way


#5

I will look into that, thank you very much

WOW! Just another reason why I love our Holy Father. God Bless him!

Thank you I will get into reading the information.

Thanks again for your advice and prayers.


#6

Start praying the Rosary daily. Devotion to the most holy Woman will set your perspective on women right. :slight_smile:


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