I feel I have to tell you a little bit about my story. I had 3 kids and a husband that worked about 3.5 yrs out of our 13 yr marriage. He decided to walk out the door and empty our bank account. We had just bought a house and moved 500 miles. I gave up my career for the possibility of his graduate school. I had put him through college. So about a year after we move he decides to leave. We had $5000 in the bank and he took $4500 of it. It turns out he didn’t graduate… so he couldn’t go to graduate school (so I gave up my career for nothing). I also gave up my medical benefits, a nice home and stable life for this???
Anyway, 6 months after he left, I got laid off my job. I tried to find work but nothing that paid well… so I looked into college. It turned out that the unemployment office has programs for displaced workers and single moms… I qualified! About this time I transferred my kids to Catholic School (public was terrible) and got grants for their tuition. I sat the kids down and told them we were going to be poor for a long time but I really needed to go to school to get a better job. I ended up on food stamps, grants, and veteran benefits… things were tight but we were ok… I worked part time at my kids school and they actually did better because I was there and I had a relationship with their teachers. We had no extra money for anything we didn’t absolutely need… and even some of our needs.
The only thing I had were my kids and my faith. I prayed alot and did odd jobs for things like shampoo and toilet paper (can’t get those on food stamps). When the kids didn’t have school, I had to take them to classes with me because I couldn’t afford a babysitter. So the kids and I would pray together… and things started to happen… like the insurance bill for $300… the week before it was due… I got my deposit back from the phone company… $320. There was one time when I went into walmart with $10, a prescription and 3 hungry kids… I came out with the medicine, fed kids and $17.00 in my pocket. I had just bought a few things and they were still in the trunk of the car… well they went clearance and walmart has a policy of refunding the difference if it is within 10 days… I went to my car, took the stuff back, and rebought it for $21 less than the day before!
When I couldn’t seem to manage… money would magically appear… at Easter another parishoner left a card with $200 in it for Easter… or Christmas presents were brought to my house and put under the tree when I wasn’t home…
Just as I was going under totally… I applied for a college loan. They messed up the paperwork so bad and it kept taking longer and longer…I prayed and cried and prayed some more… the college decided to give me a scholarship for $3000 (I applied for a $2000 loan) because they were the cause of the paperwork problem…
Now… I ended up having to quit college with 3 classes left (1 I just knew I couldn’t pass) because I hurt my back and had to have back surgery. I ended up being able to retake one of my classes and I got an A… but those other 2 classes… well I had to get a job. So I worked, then I got another job and was working about 70 hours a week…but was too exhausted to cook… so we ate out every night… working i full time and 1 almost full time job was too much! So the week I quit the part time job, my full time job cut all over time… and my income got cut in half!!!
We struggled… we went into a bit of debt, but we survived. That was 10 yrs ago. My ex does not pay child support, but we still made it. I did meet a wonderful man and remarry but I am still paying off debts from that time… but we made it. We have food and shelter (I was supposed to sell the house but I didn’t… figuring that if he actually paid child support he would have a case to make me sell). Anyway… the point is… have perfect faith that God will provide and it will happen!