Oh gosh…so this is all still very new. Well, you are probably right then that you will have to be patient, and you may have to accept that he will never have the same kind of conversion you did. That is such a personal process. Not piling on you, as we all go through our faith journeys in such individual ways, but I think this is the major price of not being serious about faith with our children from the very beginning. I try to make that point to people when we end up talking about faith, children, and families.
My own parents are fallen away Catholics too. My mother got me started well enough that I have never been able to feel comfortable anywhere else. I am grateful to her for that, because at least I had that start. It has been a real blessing, because the man I fell in love with and can’t live without is a VERY serious Catholic, and at least I had a head start on sharing a faith life with him. He brought me back to the Church…he is my own personal incarnation of the Good Shepherd. My dad was sort of Catholic when he was young, but was an atheist when I was young, and after a major life-changing crisis, joined the Assemblies of God through pastor who literally saved him. I am grateful he has found a faith life…I just wish it was one we could share.
I still think showing your son how being Catholic is relevant to the world, and helping him to find meaningful charity work through the Church is a good suggestion. It may get him on the right path, thinking-wise. But, if until four years ago, you were not raising him in the faith, this is a major upheaval and he is just at the right age to rebel. And of course, he has found your soft spot…the thing that really bugs you. Patience and encouragement are called for here, but I don’t know how wise force would be in this kind of situation. Perhaps your pastor can help you with ideas to engage your son and show him how relevant it all really is and can be.
Good luck and blessings on your family. And, I know you are in love and that the man is a strong Catholic, but you need to take time to make sure that this marriage is RIGHT and good for your children, and that they not only accept it, but WANT this man in their lives. Stepfamilies are so hard…even with faith. As the child of a man who remarried…well, let me just tell you that a person they really don’t want in their lives will be a disaster for your children and for you, no matter how good he is. You may think that’s unfair to you, but it’s reality and it’s the truth, and the children’s rights come before a parent’s desires. Just food for thought. This could be some of the reason your son is rebelling…