[quote="NoAvailableName, post:5, topic:199768"]
I'm the product of a mixed marriage. I guess God forgot to punish my dad for marrying a non-catholic.
The next time you feel the need to post more nonsense on this board, why don't you instead pray asking how you can be the wife that your husband deserves. And then go do something nice for you husband, instead of fostering these ideas in your head that you know are crazy. Sometimes, "don't feed the troll" applies to our own thoughts in our own head.
Stop being so self absorbed with everything that you want for yourself, and move your thoughts to what you can do to help others, and I bet you will be much happier.
The sin you need to feel sorrow for is coming to this board blaming your husband's protestantism for your infertility.
I'm sorry, but this post was completely inappropriate. You write as if you were responding to an attack, but no attack on you was made.
The OP was posting in distress of heart. The proper response to that is sympathy and reassurance, not attack. The OP is not saying that you shouldn't exist, but that she wishes her own marriage was blessed with a child like you (although presumably a little kinder).
It is perfectly possible to feel that you have committed a terrible sin by doing something, where others would be committing a lesser or even no sin by dong the same thing. Judging your own actions too harshly, as the OP did, does not imply a similar judgement on the actions of others.
Also, nowhere in her post does the OP blame her husband for their infertility (which may be just as much a cross for him to bear as it is for her). It is a little closer to say she blames her own Catholicism for their infertility.
Speaking honestly of the distress you are feeling is NOT a sin, even if some of that distress is due to a mistaken cause.
Infertility is a heartbreaking and very thought-consuming cross to bear. It is even worse these days, when so many people use methods to become pregnant that are not allowed by the Church (e.g. in vitro), so that infertility is a less common problem now than it was. Also, of course, the terrible curse of abortion makes it harder to adopt.
Still, my message to the OP is to remember the beginning of John 9:
As he passed by, he saw a man blind from his birth. And his disciples asked him, "Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?" Jesus answered, "It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be made manifest in him."
The idea that our hardships in this life are a direct result of how "happy" God is with us is NOT a Catholic idea. As others have pointed out, it is no sin to marry in accord with the rules of the Church, as you did. If it were a sin to marry a non-Catholic, the Church would not have come up with rules about HOW to do it (which you followed), but would instead have just forbidden it.
prolifewife, you do not know in what way the works of God may be made manifest in you because of your infertility. It may be that the infertility is only temporary. Or it may be that by your suffering patiently borne, you may be a witness that keeps someone from serious sin, which might otherwise have started them down a path that leads to Hell. You must trust that God loves you no matter what, and that even if your marriage had been a sin (which it wasn't), He would still be arranging things for your true best interests, even though you may not understand how until after death.
God bless you,