I think you are being really dismissive of the bad advice that people get.
It’s no secret that people post college and pre-marriage basically can’t do anything right. If you are with your parents, then you’re a lazy loafer. If you have roomates then you are prolonging childhood. If you live alone then you are allowing for temptations. And no matter what, every year that passes as single you’re seen as some kind of social pariah whose rejecting a rightful vocation to religious or married life.
Yet parishes do NOTHING to help. The dioceses offer a few token offerings, sure, but it’s never great.
My husband and I went to the same church, did things within the church, we did things with the dioceses, yet we never met. We relied on Catholic Match. IMO the church did NOTHING to help me with my vocation. Because my husband and I were well educated on marriage and talked about issues we scored perfect on our FOCCUS test and the priest had nothing for us—nothing.
And now we have little ones. Is there anything for us? Nope. In fact its pretty difficult to volunteer now because the hours that the Church wants are not conducive to family life. There are a few mom’s groups here and there, but it’s still a long wait until the kids are old enough to go to CCD.
Then, we will “matter” to the Church again. Until then, it seems that the church can’t give a flying care about those who don’t fit into their social life.
And don’t give me the “so start things” line because I have. The groups ran great…but we basically did it without the church because even though the church bi-laws say that each group must have a “sponsoring outside member” or “spiritual advisor” the priest never encouraged and supported someone to be our groups, and did not take on the role himself–which was what was called for.